Do you have any good info behind this or just a gut feel from yourself?
Thanks to everyone for posting their stories and advice!! One assumption that I am working under is that the best way to open doors and to attract scholarships (of any kind) is to perform as well as possible on the ACT and/or SAT. To those of you who have gone through this - have you found this to be applicable? If a student athlete accepts an early verbal offer, is it contingent upon test scores and maintaining an acceptable GPA?
If a kid is not a superstar (i.e., being recruited by 5 or 10 teams), then you should look at the first offer very carefully.
You and your DD are selling your DD's services for 4 years. Selling 101: It is easier to sell to someone who wants to buy than it is to sell to someone who does not want to buy. If you decline the first offer, that coach will move on to another kid. You, on the other hand, will have to start building a relationship with someone else. It isn't easy.
And...I know I'm sounding like a broken record...she needs to get this out of the way so she can start thinking about life after softball.
Quick story: When I first got into softball, there was a really good pitcher that my DD liked. We would go to her games, etc. My DD made her a role model. We started following the team, etc. So, after the girl graduated, my DD went to see the team play. There was this pitcher, still hanging out with the team like she was a player. She had no plans for the future and didn't know what she was going to do. She was lost. I went through something similar with my two DDs...the transition from "star athlete" to "one of many" is tough. Do *not* underestimate this problem.
RB, I get it about the money. Financially, it has to work for you and her.
You and she need to look at the total value of an education and what the school brings to the table. E.g., a degree from Harvard is worth many times more than the cost. Name recognition has become very important.
Thanks to everyone for posting their stories and advice!! One assumption that I am working under is that the best way to open doors and to attract scholarships (of any kind) is to perform as well as possible on the ACT and/or SAT. To those of you who have gone through this - have you found this to be applicable? If a student athlete accepts an early verbal offer, is it contingent upon test scores and maintaining an acceptable GPA?
Everyone has given amazing advice which is often difficult to express to younger kids. My 12 year old is still under the assumption that his life's plan is to play pro football for seven (seven - exactly seven) years before retiring to the Caribbean.
DD's freshman English class is studying "Romeo and Juliet". As a class exercise, the teacher had parents list what qualities they want in their child's ideal partner. I listed good grades, life's goals, higher education. The kids then listed what they wanted. DD listed cute, wears a beanie (the hat equivalent of sloppy jeans, as I understand it!), funny. The college search seems to be like Romeo and Juliet - our kids have stars in their eyes - for us parents it is such a fine line between letting them dream and pointing out reality (a penchant for beanie wearing does not pay the mortgage).
I guess my biggest question for all you veterans out there - is it OK to wait just a little bit longer? I've tried to have college conversations with my freshman DD but emotionally she is just not ready. Can I wait through the summer and re-visit the college search in the fall?