JJsqueeze
Dad, Husband....legend
Holy cow, China and I agree on something...
I stopped making sure that my kids got "As" in the 7th grade. If they wanted help, they could come to us. Other than that, we would make sure their homework was done.
They learned how to budget their time and how long they needed to do assignments. As far as I can tell, your DD isn't learning anything about her own limitations.
You're crazy.
Parenting 101: The child should experience the natural consequences of her actions.
You are making choices about what she does for her. So, she never gets to make a choice. She never gets to experience what happens when *SHE* makes a bad decision. There are never any consequences for her. She will never learn how to make good decisions unless you allow her to make bad decisions.
Additionally, you are making her dependent upon you. (One might ask, "Is that for her or for you?") You are trying to raise a person who doesn't need you.
Additionally, you are teaching her that softball is more important than her school work. ***IT ISN'T***
Rich kid kills four in Texasl
I may be off base here, but what I think I am getting is that you do not approve of parental help with homework?
The article was good though. But on the list of jacked up things that have happened in Texas it is very low on the list.
after re reading your response I decided to take offense, so let me set you straight on a couple of ridiculous assumptions you made....
DD gets plenty of consequences, how you build in an assumption that because we help here sometimes that somehow she NEVER gets to fall on her own, is beyond me. She faces the consequences of her actions all the time and has plenty of opportunities to fail without daddy bailing her out.
DDs, both of them, do their homework every day, without asking, will run circles academically around 90% of the kids in the nation. Both of them just got straight As, both are in GATE, both tests above 90th percentile across the boards on standardized tests etc. She is super bright and hard working. She has EARNED an assist when homework assignments, many of which I consider complete BS, pile up because she has a time demanding sport that she chooses to pursue year round.
Softball is more important than some schoolwork-I see the BS she has to do, spending an hour on rote memorization of times tables that she already has learned? I did this too and I thought it was stupid when I was a kid, if I get 100% on something on a Monday, why on earth should I do it again on a Tuesday and a Wednesday? My daughter is shy and quiet, the ONLY time she gets to be the center of attention is when she is on a softball field, and she thrives doing it. She doesn't have to be an awkward 11 year old adjusting to middle school, she just gets to play a game that she loves and can instantly earn the respect of her peers. Do you remember how good that felt? I do. And yes that is more important to her overall growth than some of the arts and crafts that get buried inside of her homework, right now it is making pop up illustrations for a report on Egypt, but next week it will be something just as stupid.
Trust me when I say that academics are stressed, DD has a lot of responsibility and faces lots of consequences for her actions, the OP was simply about how MUCH do other parents help with homework, I was not seeking parental guidance, so keep the condescending rebukes, and the illogical conclusions on my parenting to yourself.
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