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- Dec 13, 2019
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Just as a discussion point.I've been called honey, hun, darlin, by women I don't know my whole life. Hell, I was called sweet pea at Taco Bell by a girl that might have been 15. Should I have demanded to speak to her manager for crossing some imaginary boundary? I was also called a hell of a lot worse by every basketball, baseball and football coach I ever had. Who cares, it's a word. If you think someone that has coached as long as Cannonball has should retire over calling someone honey then you are what's wrong with society and all this cancel culture b.s. is ridiculous. How about if someone doesn't like being called a certain word then they have a talk with coach about it? Everyone expects these kids to discuss any other issues with coach and act like adults, why not in this situation? We are raising a society full of candy asses and frankly it sickens me as much as it makes me sad. Btw, I never call any girls I coach honey, it's usually girls or ladies.
MikeP post describes an interesting complexity.
He was called cutsie names...
He didnt mind it. (or didnt comment it was bad)
*Yet in his last sentence says he himself would never call girls he coached honey.
( would you call boys honey?)
*Perhaps if he could explain why he chose that (imo) healthy boundary?
*Might be something else there thats important?!
Adults being called whatever and reacting one way or the other is an adult in that situation.
Not a teenager.
I have also been called nice little cutsie names.
As an adult have the 'where with all' to determine those situations.
Do teenagers? Or everyone for that matter?
That said
Have also noted when comments were crossing a line between casual or your hitting on me, but there was also 'That was creepy' instances.
Some people may like or dismiss any sweetie comment. No matter who it comes from, when or where.
But * will say probably there are times and places it can be more disturbing because,
WE CANT JUST WALK AWAY FROM IT
At work, school, team
Places we spend time at and will return to. And deserve comfortable surroundings.
How about places that are more peculiar
Like in a public bathroom?
*Its unfortunet to need to discuss these topics!
We have seen some interesting double standards in our society.
Myself believe in a strong backbone.
However can also recognize there are people who cross the line in ways that do make situations awkward.
(heck dfp is proof of people getting disgusted at coach yeller or berated team environments)
Because of this brought this topic to dfp simply to acknowledge that our words can and do impact those around us.
Find theres actually an easy solution to this~
simply remove the pet sugar words when at a team function.
it is not your time
its shared time!
With multiple perspectives who probably do not interpret things the same.
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