- Jun 24, 2013
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The Goldilocks principle.
I got to go with Coogan on this...
Something very similar happened to my DD. My DD was pitching for an 18U team when she was 14YOA. The team picked up a 17YOA for a few tournaments who was better than my DD. The team did better with two good pitchers than one, but... It was the first time we (she and I) her pitching time had ever been reduced.
So, my thoughts:
1) The coach was a little bit of a wiener. He should not have split innings. Your DD should have started a couple of games and the other girl should have started a couple of games.
2) Your DD's days of being the only pitcher on a team have to end. It isn't good for her. But, having a second pitcher means that your DD will not be the most important player on the team. She will have to compete for playing time. It requires some adjustment in her (and your) thinking.
3) The coach might have been trying to recruit the new kid for the team, and went overboard. He may have thought that you and your DD "understood" what he was doing. In order to get the kid to play, he may have had to promise something. So, talk this over with the coach.
4) Think a little about what would be "fair" for your DD and another good pitcher.
This HC has built a reputation on my DD back and then treated her like a second rate pitcher. Again, how do I handle?
I'm not sure this line of thinking is healthy, because you are implying that this team's success and reputation rests solely on your daughter's pitching prowess, which is not the case when part of a TEAM. Now you have a situation where a better pitcher joins the team and has quickly taken over the #1 spot. You and your DD are having a tough time with it.
Was the coach a jerk during the tournament and now will ride the new #1? Probably, but I would have DD use this as motivation to get better, explore her options with other teams better suited for her (e.g. pitching rotation, equal playing time), and to understand that just because she has been with this team for the past 5 years doesn't guarantee her the same status each year.
You thought your DD was pitching too much so you wanted another pitcher to split the work but it sounds like you can't handle watching another pitcher succeed while your DD sits. If you don't like the fact that there's another pitcher that's better than your DD you better get to work or learn to deal with it. It's a team sport.