- May 16, 2015
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I'm a softball mom and this is my first post. My daughter will be 16 in two months. Recently, she told my husband and I she no longer wants to play travel softball and I guess I'm still a little bit in shock. She's has pitched since 10U. She has basically lived, eaten and breathed softball all these years and has said it was her dream to play softball one day in college. She was a very successful pitcher through 14U, but unfortunately, during her second year of 14U, she seemed to have "peeked." While other girls were increasing pitching speed, she wasn't. She lost enthusiasm for pitching and would come home from her pitching lessons discouraged about not being as fast as many of the other girls.
Last summer, after the team she had played with for years fell apart, she moved up to an 18U Gold team and did extensive traveling. The team played mostly showcase tournaments, with 1 or 2 ASA tournaments on their schedule. Although not a superstar on the team, she held her own with the older girls and her coach was quite complimentary. He put her in the pitching rotation, but she also played a lot at third base and outfield, and she actually really played well in the outfield, which was new to her.
While she was in the midst of her high school season, her travel coach had set the upcoming summer travel schedule. I went over the schedule with her and started excitedly talking to her about all the places she would get to go with the team this summer - in addition to tournaments in Florida where we live, they are going to Georgia, Pennsylvania, Louisiana. As I talked to her, she looked more and more miserable, and finally burst into tears and told me she doesn't want to play travel anymore, that it had become too hard, that there was too much pressure and that it just wasn't fun anymore. To say I was shocked to hear that is an understatement. This is a kid who would drag her dad into the yard to pitch every day, who would wake up spontaneously at the crack of dawn on a tournament day because she was excited and wanted to get us all going. I was reluctant to tell her travel coach at first that she didn't want to play, because I was hoping she'd change her mind. I asked her if she would still want to play and just not pitcher, because I know the stress of pitching has been tremendous. Unfortunately, that hasn't been the case, so I finally told her coach she wanted to take time off and they have now filled her spot on the team.
So, I guess the point of this post is, I am having a really hard time dealing with this. Softball was such a big part of our lives. I loved spending weekends during the summer at the field, I loved watching my daughter play. We've developed wonderful friendships through softball. It's selfish, I know, but I really hope that after taking this summer off, she'll find that she's missing the game and will want to return. She still wants to play high school ball, because she says it's less pressure and continues to be fun for her. But for now, she is sticking to her guns about travel. Ironically, my husband is taking this much better than I am. Go figure.
My daughter is a great kid. She is an excellent student and her academics will get her into a good school. I am trying to just be supportive and not pressure her about her decision. But my inside "softball mom" is not going down easily. Why am I having such a hard time letting this go?
I'm curious to hear how other parents have handled this, and if any of your players have gone back to travel after taking a season off.
Last summer, after the team she had played with for years fell apart, she moved up to an 18U Gold team and did extensive traveling. The team played mostly showcase tournaments, with 1 or 2 ASA tournaments on their schedule. Although not a superstar on the team, she held her own with the older girls and her coach was quite complimentary. He put her in the pitching rotation, but she also played a lot at third base and outfield, and she actually really played well in the outfield, which was new to her.
While she was in the midst of her high school season, her travel coach had set the upcoming summer travel schedule. I went over the schedule with her and started excitedly talking to her about all the places she would get to go with the team this summer - in addition to tournaments in Florida where we live, they are going to Georgia, Pennsylvania, Louisiana. As I talked to her, she looked more and more miserable, and finally burst into tears and told me she doesn't want to play travel anymore, that it had become too hard, that there was too much pressure and that it just wasn't fun anymore. To say I was shocked to hear that is an understatement. This is a kid who would drag her dad into the yard to pitch every day, who would wake up spontaneously at the crack of dawn on a tournament day because she was excited and wanted to get us all going. I was reluctant to tell her travel coach at first that she didn't want to play, because I was hoping she'd change her mind. I asked her if she would still want to play and just not pitcher, because I know the stress of pitching has been tremendous. Unfortunately, that hasn't been the case, so I finally told her coach she wanted to take time off and they have now filled her spot on the team.
So, I guess the point of this post is, I am having a really hard time dealing with this. Softball was such a big part of our lives. I loved spending weekends during the summer at the field, I loved watching my daughter play. We've developed wonderful friendships through softball. It's selfish, I know, but I really hope that after taking this summer off, she'll find that she's missing the game and will want to return. She still wants to play high school ball, because she says it's less pressure and continues to be fun for her. But for now, she is sticking to her guns about travel. Ironically, my husband is taking this much better than I am. Go figure.
My daughter is a great kid. She is an excellent student and her academics will get her into a good school. I am trying to just be supportive and not pressure her about her decision. But my inside "softball mom" is not going down easily. Why am I having such a hard time letting this go?
I'm curious to hear how other parents have handled this, and if any of your players have gone back to travel after taking a season off.