With regards to quitting, I don't think that's the right answer either. I know that a lot of what we are trying to do here is use these sports to teach our DD's life lessons. HS softball is not like real life in that you can't quit and go play some where else. With a job you can quit and go get another one. With HS softball, you quit and you're not playing HS softball any where else.
Quitting reflects on you. I wouldn't want that to be reflected on my DD. I would want my DD to be the best teammate and cheer leader for her teammates. Some times life just doesn't go your way. I want my DD to be Brittany Rogers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6VhKtCkE20
How is the coach "punishing her"?
A wrong choice in words I suppose. It's not that she is being punished but how she is being treated. Whether she talked to the HC or if my DD did, the situation was not going to change one way or another.
All of #7sDad's post is spot-on, but this part is the spot-oniest.
When reading the OP, the two things that immediately jumped out at me are 1. new coach this year with no history with the daughter, and 2. daughter injured early in season running the bases (question - does this imply that your daughter was a regular player before the injury?).
Not saying it's right, but I could definitely see this new coach being simply not willing to invest her time/energy in an injured player with whom she'll only be around for a couple of months (sorry if that reads harsher than I mean it to). She is probably more concerned about players that she will have going forward. Playing the AD's daughter in place of yours may just be an easy political way out.
It's a tough situation for your daughter, no doubt. I hope it all works out for the best.
...and don't shy away from those paragraph breaks in the future.
Just a wild theory, but maybe the coach is rewarding the other player for her hard work by playing her. Your DD is a better player when healthy. In your words “her reaction time was a little behind”, so maybe she’s not the best player right now. It’s not her fault she was hurt, it’s hard to get better when you’re not playing, etc. It sucks, but that’s life. She’s just gotta make the best of the situation and be ready when she’s called on.
Agreed I think you probably realize now you talking to HC was not going to help and probably going about it the wrong way (although probably didn't hurt either since it does sound like she is open to change).
I am encouraged that you both realize quitting is not an option so how about this.
My recommendation is your DD approach the HC and simply say "I know my dad talked to you and after thinking about it I realize that as a senior I should have just approached you myself with any questions. I've talked to my Dad and he has agreed that he won't discuss any on field issue with you and I am taking responsibility for whether I play or not. With that being said I want you to know that I am here for the team, I'll keep practicing and working hard and am ready to do whatever you need me to do for the team. If you think I need work in any specific areas please let me know and I will focus on those; otherwise just know that I'll be ready if you call on me.
I knew beforehand that I shouldn't have talked to the coach but I was getting disgusted with the situation. I don't think I hurt her situation because it was apparently in motion anyway. She's a senior and it wasn't going to make a difference one way or another. The argument if you want to call it that went a different direction when they (the coaches) apparently tried to bring things up that made no sense whatsoever to the situation. A second assistant, who was here last year, t least said he know my daughter will make those tough catches but he said nothing else. I even asked the head coach if the assistant coach asked his opinion if she didn't know who played where and when if she wasn't here last year. She said she does. Well, I just heard something positive come out of his mouth but I guess it didn't matter at that point. This is not the first time there have been problem's with the athletic director's daughter. She has missed some practices because of track but she still plays. She has missed softball practices to play travel volleyball but still gets to play softball. She's good at a lot of things but not great. Plus she only interacts with one other player on the team. It almost seems like she is there just so she can get another award or have the coach nominate her for an all-star game, like in volleyball in basketball. It is just very frustrating.
College softball might still be an option but I think she make the right choice for now.
There are 3 outfield positions. I think you are a little to focused on the AD's daughter (just my opinion). Is there a chance that she can play LF or RF? Usually CF is the best outfielder, so if she got pushed out of her spot wouldn't she have a good chance of getting one of the other spots? Is it anoption of approaching the coach and letting her know that she will play anywhere?