Let me get this straight, you want to tell the owner of a brand new softball organization that his daughter is too good to play for his organization?
Then you're going to tell them that the organization you'll be starting is going to be way better than his and that his daughter should switch to your team.
Sure why not? Sit down and have a talk with them.
Will be 11u next year. The parents know there is no discipline or any form of hard work on the current 11u team (which the kid would be on next year if she didn't go our way)
So this an 11u who knows she wants to play d1 ball and you think playing in her current situation will ruin her chances of competing at that level? Are you joking?
The younger the kid the easier to break bad habits and teach good ones. So yea, I think if a kid plays rec ball (or rec-like) until she's 14-15, too many other girls have passed her. Unless she works EXTREMELY hard and has a huge amount of raw talent.
Strong Organization that has 11U teams???? What sanction are you playing under? Also, just to throw it out there, your "planning" on taking the top 3 players from several teams to make this superteam. what happens when they don't want to?