I am curious how the 2 groups get along together on the midweek rec teams. Do the rec-only people resent being relegated to just midweek participation? Do the travel people embrace participating in the midweek program or are they constantly complaining about the level of play and being forced to be there? The people that can't embrace it need to either get an attitude adjustment or join a regular travel team.
This is why the majority of our travel players are allowed to play up in rec - it ups the level of play for them and in general the additional physical maturity of the older girls makes up for maybe the lesser skill level. We don't force anyone to play rec - instead we try to create an environment where there is something for the travel player to get out of it (in this case playing with older players)
As for mid-week - they are fine as long as they get the games/practices in. Also it isn't NO weekend - you can coordinate with the travel teams what tournaments they are entered in and work around it.