Player is trying out for a couple teams for next season. In her first tryout one of the coaches, a very seasoned coach comes up to her and tells her he knows she is trying out for other teams and names them. He is right about one, wrong about another but approaching a teenage kid and putting them on the spot about trying out for other teams is, IMO, incredibly unethical.
If the player or parent offers the information that is fine, but this is not a question a coach should ask for specifics on, and not to the player. And it's even worse when they already know...what does that do except put the kid in an awkward position? Does it make the coach feel good or powerful? Why does the coach have to demonstrate this power/knowledge to the kid?
I would think a coach interested in a player would have a general conversation with the player AND parent after the tryout about whether they are trying out for other teams. This is an important part of the discussion with timing of tryouts and team decisions, etc.
If I'm interviewing candidates for a job, I would never ask them who else they are interviewing for. Nevermind doing this to a teenager.
I'd love some feedback on this.
If the player or parent offers the information that is fine, but this is not a question a coach should ask for specifics on, and not to the player. And it's even worse when they already know...what does that do except put the kid in an awkward position? Does it make the coach feel good or powerful? Why does the coach have to demonstrate this power/knowledge to the kid?
I would think a coach interested in a player would have a general conversation with the player AND parent after the tryout about whether they are trying out for other teams. This is an important part of the discussion with timing of tryouts and team decisions, etc.
If I'm interviewing candidates for a job, I would never ask them who else they are interviewing for. Nevermind doing this to a teenager.
I'd love some feedback on this.