So because your kids feel a certain way that is how all kids should feel? Lol.............
First week of college practice
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Read @Rolling Hard & @sluggers posts
To be reflecting perspectives of what people may or may not want to endure in college sports.
@Rolling Hard commented to overly demanding coaches and not liking it. He even commented it's supposed to be fun.
@sluggers commented to his daughters having a different impression of what the sport is going to be, perhaps knowing it's going to be demanding. Fun would have not been the word to use.
Reality is that people will describe/define fun in different ways and players are looking for different types of experiences.
That Said (with certainty) no matter the type of coaching Style the demands of time involved will be a regiment.
The Regiment may not be fun for some but it must be endured if going to play a sport.
*even if just going to go to college
(No sport) there's going to be a regiment.
Is like a full-time job. Some students like being a student and others don't. Part of the territory so to speak.
To be reflecting perspectives of what people may or may not want to endure in college sports.
@Rolling Hard commented to overly demanding coaches and not liking it. He even commented it's supposed to be fun.
@sluggers commented to his daughters having a different impression of what the sport is going to be, perhaps knowing it's going to be demanding. Fun would have not been the word to use.
Reality is that people will describe/define fun in different ways and players are looking for different types of experiences.
That Said (with certainty) no matter the type of coaching Style the demands of time involved will be a regiment.
The Regiment may not be fun for some but it must be endured if going to play a sport.
*even if just going to go to college
(No sport) there's going to be a regiment.
Is like a full-time job. Some students like being a student and others don't. Part of the territory so to speak.
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- Feb 25, 2009
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It will get better. My dd, as with most of the poster's dds found the grind hard at first and then adjusted. WRT time management, it will all fall into place when they get a routine established. My dd got a whiteboard and planned every minute on it. It was her routine. Then she could "find time" to study with a friend or to talk to those things called, "boys."
BTW, I hope that your dd's school offers the study hall. For freshmen where my dd went, it is not optional. While that put more demands on time, the benefit was that the tutors provided and the study time with other athletes enabled my daughter to network and to get help.
BTW, I hope that your dd's school offers the study hall. For freshmen where my dd went, it is not optional. While that put more demands on time, the benefit was that the tutors provided and the study time with other athletes enabled my daughter to network and to get help.
- Feb 7, 2014
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My DD would tell you college is the best softball experience she has had. Good coaches, better people.
Exactly! It should be a good experience(fun). You should be able to have good coaches that are good people. Coaches that care about their players. Sure the time demands will be tough, but you can have a tight schedule and still make the experience enjoyable. Being a hard rear doesn't make you a good coach. In fact, IMO it makes you a weak coach. Using fear and berating your players is feeble brain-dead coaching. Read a book. A good coach can motivate their players with encouragement and making their player want to perform better in order to please them.
- Jun 8, 2016
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I would bet Tom Brady wouldn’t describe the work he put in to get where he is as fun..for him and others like him (MJ,etc) it is a compulsion almost. What they would describe as fun would be competing and excelling when the lights went on..at least for the two days they let themselves revel in it before they starting looking toward the next year.
The first few weeks are hard for all freshmen..it is why they typically travel in packs (freshmen herds we use to call them..) Athletes have more going on but they also have “ready made” friends too in their teammates. It will get better..
The first few weeks are hard for all freshmen..it is why they typically travel in packs (freshmen herds we use to call them..) Athletes have more going on but they also have “ready made” friends too in their teammates. It will get better..
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- Dec 11, 2010
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I actually think this describes it well. I have said before that college softball is kind of like four years of boot camp. I think there are people who just love to endure.
For sure. And it’s ok to want something different.
There are good people out there. I’d like to think that good guys finish first!
I agree. That’s why I hate to see players quit so soon. It will get better whether you are a student or a student athlete. Get past those first few weeks. Then decide. There may not be a decision to make if they hang in there.
I once heard a former Navy SEAL talk about how he made it through BUDS, the extremely difficult training program. He had a friend there who would say "I'm going to quit. But I heard they're having bacon and eggs for breakfast and I like bacon and eggs. So maybe I'll quit after breakfast."
After breakfast he's say "I'm going to quit, but we're running today and I like to run, so maybe I'll run and then I'll quit after that."
The point is if you look at the long term and everything you have to do it can quickly become overwhelming. So break it down into small chunks. Just get through the next thing, then the next, and before you know it the tough stuff is behind you.
Also remind her that those first weeks are tough on purpose. They're trying to weed out those who aren't 100% committed. Usually it gets better after that.
After breakfast he's say "I'm going to quit, but we're running today and I like to run, so maybe I'll run and then I'll quit after that."
The point is if you look at the long term and everything you have to do it can quickly become overwhelming. So break it down into small chunks. Just get through the next thing, then the next, and before you know it the tough stuff is behind you.
Also remind her that those first weeks are tough on purpose. They're trying to weed out those who aren't 100% committed. Usually it gets better after that.
Thanks for the feed back. They put everything in their phone calendar and are generally good at time management, but they are just overwhelmed.
I found out one of their friends quit…a girl they knew before college. This seemed to be very discouraging for them, but they said they won’t quit. They worked a long time to get here and they are going to see it through.
They had easy practices on Sat & Sun and went to a friends parents house to eat, so they said they feel better physically.
As some suspected, they aren’t eating and sleeping enough. I told them no later than 10:00pm the nights before 6:00 am work outs…told them to turn the phones off and just lay down and close your eyes. We’ll see if they do it.
Also learned one daughter hates the food in the cafeteria and isn’t getting enough nutrients. She went to Walmart and got some stuff for her fridge that she can eat, but I told her to get with the nutritionist and buy the frozen meals they offer and store in the freezer at the field house. I’m hoping this helps.
Hopefully they have a better week…they have a scrimmage on Sunday and one dd is going to start at pitcher, so that is something to look forward to.
again, thanks!
I found out one of their friends quit…a girl they knew before college. This seemed to be very discouraging for them, but they said they won’t quit. They worked a long time to get here and they are going to see it through.
They had easy practices on Sat & Sun and went to a friends parents house to eat, so they said they feel better physically.
As some suspected, they aren’t eating and sleeping enough. I told them no later than 10:00pm the nights before 6:00 am work outs…told them to turn the phones off and just lay down and close your eyes. We’ll see if they do it.
Also learned one daughter hates the food in the cafeteria and isn’t getting enough nutrients. She went to Walmart and got some stuff for her fridge that she can eat, but I told her to get with the nutritionist and buy the frozen meals they offer and store in the freezer at the field house. I’m hoping this helps.
Hopefully they have a better week…they have a scrimmage on Sunday and one dd is going to start at pitcher, so that is something to look forward to.
again, thanks!
- Nov 18, 2013
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What your DD is experiencing is perfectly normal. It’s hard enough being away from home for the first time. Adding not knowing anybody, the increased from academics and softball gets overwhelming. Every parent I know who sent their kid off to play softball had at least one story of them calling home in tears freshman year. Just reassure her it will get better.
