KHS,
Sounds like a good amount of time, "Short and Sweet", keep it moving and keep it fun!
Sounds like a good amount of time, "Short and Sweet", keep it moving and keep it fun!
she's my artsy one. Then fell in love with softball. I think she hit a few bumps in the road in the past and her confidence took a hit. I'm just trying to get it back up. If she comes out strong in Spring she may fall in love again. If not, then she can quit after Spring is over. She needs to find whatever it is that makes her happy. I'm just trying to teach her that it's normal to not always love something like you did when it was brand new. To see her successes and how far she's come. If she stops having fun we are done. But I think part of her "not having fun" was her not playing the way she wanted to play. And she won't ever do LL again. It's all beginners and would totally frustrate her. I just hope that I am doing everything I can to make this positive and teach her good values…it's been good to hear other's perspectives
….... It could be that the "relentless pursuit of perfection" is a bit much for her right now. Softball is a game, and games are supposed to be fun.
When she's at lessons is there ever time for conversation or laughter? Again, something that would allow her to just have fun. There are drills, games and competitions you can do to break up the monotony. Maybe offer a prize afterwards if she reaches a certain goal or fields a certain number of balls successfully. The purpose isn't the prize itself but to give the practice context, i.e., give her some sort of an immediate goal or gratification that also lets her measure her progress. This isn't about rewarding kids for showing up; it's about giving them perspective when they need it…...
It may be well meaning but you just reminded her of the competition and pursuit of perfection again. Confidence = (or comes from) extra practice (to get perfect!)--that is often a mistake that parents of young players make. I have seen parents bring kid to field while our practice is going on. They start practicing. I ask when their game is, and the answer is 2 hours later, but they want to get ready.....
Remember they want to please adults, and we have to be careful with the power we have in that regard.