- Oct 16, 2014
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Sorry in advance...This will be long
DD is 11 and plays on a 12U C level travel team. This is her second year playing Travel ball and she played 2 years of little league before her travel team. Her team this year consists of 9 girls that also moved up to 12U with her from last years 10U team. She LOVES these girls. We are very lucky in the sense that we have great families on this team and no drama really.
Here's the technical part. DD is an *average* player. Not a standout and not on the bench. Last year she took a while to really warm up to the competitive level of travel ball so she played usually right field and was Ok with it mostly.
She's always been a strong hitter and has been with a hitting coach for over a year and just continues to get stronger in that area (her fall average is .351). Last year she always "wanted" to play 3rd base, but her coach had told her no and that the girl that started at 3rd "owned 3rd base". (in our opinion she wasn't a whole lot better than DD so that really hurt her feelings, especially since that girl is younger and still playing 10U this year). Anyhoo this Fall she finally got her crack at 3rd base. She would start half of the games at 3rd or rotate in in the 3rd inning after another teammate started at 3rd (shared position). She was "ok" needed to be quicker to the ball and not afraid to go after the ball (sometimes would let the shortstop take what could have been hers)SHe really improved over the Fall season and the last few games she played really well and aggressive. She came out of the dugout with a huge smile and I told her to remember that feeling as that's the type of playing we were going to work on and toward over winter. Her coach had told her it's her position to win full time if she wants it. So now over winter we've got a private coach and all they do is 3rd base drills. Foot work, glove work, getting the ball out fast, accurate throws to first etc. Needless to say this was a little daunting for DD as she had never really done most of this or been instructed "how" to do this since before she mostly played outfield in the past. It's been like drinking from a fire hose. Every time she improves on a skill she's shown how to do it faster or taught another one. I get it. She's 11 and its HARD!! But now she's starting to say she wants to quit after the Spring. She's anxious about Spring and if she will be good enough. She says she doesn't love it like she did before. She wants to "play volleyball"( where'd that come from??). I think this must be sort of normal. I was a dancer for 10 years in my youth and totally remember wanting to quit several times when it got hard. I also think 12U/14U may be a time where it's a make it or break it for a lot of girls. A lot of girls start to get really good and excel, and the gap widens with the ones who just aren't good or don't work hard and it can be discouraging. in my area if you don't excel you may as well not play, and rec isn't competitive at all. It's all about the travel teams.
Just looking for other experiences. I sort of feel like I need to push her just a little because she can be lazy. But trying to figure out if we as parents want this more than her. is this normal?
thanks for any advice.
DD is 11 and plays on a 12U C level travel team. This is her second year playing Travel ball and she played 2 years of little league before her travel team. Her team this year consists of 9 girls that also moved up to 12U with her from last years 10U team. She LOVES these girls. We are very lucky in the sense that we have great families on this team and no drama really.
Here's the technical part. DD is an *average* player. Not a standout and not on the bench. Last year she took a while to really warm up to the competitive level of travel ball so she played usually right field and was Ok with it mostly.
She's always been a strong hitter and has been with a hitting coach for over a year and just continues to get stronger in that area (her fall average is .351). Last year she always "wanted" to play 3rd base, but her coach had told her no and that the girl that started at 3rd "owned 3rd base". (in our opinion she wasn't a whole lot better than DD so that really hurt her feelings, especially since that girl is younger and still playing 10U this year). Anyhoo this Fall she finally got her crack at 3rd base. She would start half of the games at 3rd or rotate in in the 3rd inning after another teammate started at 3rd (shared position). She was "ok" needed to be quicker to the ball and not afraid to go after the ball (sometimes would let the shortstop take what could have been hers)SHe really improved over the Fall season and the last few games she played really well and aggressive. She came out of the dugout with a huge smile and I told her to remember that feeling as that's the type of playing we were going to work on and toward over winter. Her coach had told her it's her position to win full time if she wants it. So now over winter we've got a private coach and all they do is 3rd base drills. Foot work, glove work, getting the ball out fast, accurate throws to first etc. Needless to say this was a little daunting for DD as she had never really done most of this or been instructed "how" to do this since before she mostly played outfield in the past. It's been like drinking from a fire hose. Every time she improves on a skill she's shown how to do it faster or taught another one. I get it. She's 11 and its HARD!! But now she's starting to say she wants to quit after the Spring. She's anxious about Spring and if she will be good enough. She says she doesn't love it like she did before. She wants to "play volleyball"( where'd that come from??). I think this must be sort of normal. I was a dancer for 10 years in my youth and totally remember wanting to quit several times when it got hard. I also think 12U/14U may be a time where it's a make it or break it for a lot of girls. A lot of girls start to get really good and excel, and the gap widens with the ones who just aren't good or don't work hard and it can be discouraging. in my area if you don't excel you may as well not play, and rec isn't competitive at all. It's all about the travel teams.
Just looking for other experiences. I sort of feel like I need to push her just a little because she can be lazy. But trying to figure out if we as parents want this more than her. is this normal?
thanks for any advice.