- Nov 29, 2016
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Again, there is a lot of information missing, such as why her parents wouldn't let her try out, and why they think her parents would let her play now. It seems like you are holding a grudge against this girl, and you don't want her on the team.
I really don't see this as anything to get upset about. The coach is doing what he thinks is best for the team and the program. You are really making too big a deal out of the one tryout.
I'll give you an example. For my DD 3, almost every team she played on either she didn't need to try out, or else she was asked to try out as a formality and was actually offered a spot on the team BEFORE tryouts. One time for a little league season they had tryouts, but every coach had already decided to use the first draft pick on her even before the tryouts. One time she was able to switch teams while she was 1000 miles away from the tryouts because she had pitched against the other team, and the new coach wanted her on the team. So, for any tryout, her position was set pretty much BEFORE the tryouts even started. The coaches knew what they wanted, tryouts were just a formality for the best players. For the bubble or unknown players, tryouts are important.
Actually I like this girl. She was on my daughters team in the spring and is very nice. This is not personal at all and I'm certainly not going to get in to why she wasn't allowed to tryout that's not my business. I just don't like playing favorites all in the name of winning meaningless trinkets. I'd rather teach the others girls a lesson in overcoming adversity and fighting the good fight.
Maybe I'd feel different if my daughter was the superstar of the team like yours and that's not anything against you, I'm just honestly intellectually curious if that would change things. You're right though, I'm making too much of this. Even my daughter didn't seem overly phased by it when she heard. I guess I'm just too sensitive when it comes to the kids.
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