- Jun 24, 2013
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Of course, there are times when it is appropriate to leave in mid-season. I and others are simplifying things when we say 'keep your commitment'. That's really another thread - When is it appropriate to break a commitment? There are times when you have to go. If a coach says he'll bat the full roster every game, then sits your DD out all weekend, that would be an example.
But if you do have to break a commitment, there are respectful and courteous ways of doing it. The example given here - a 10-player team that loses two players right after a tournament without the coach having a clue that might happen - doesn't sound so good.
I agree. One team there was no respect given from the coach so we basically told him we were going to pursue other options. We attempted to talk to him but he was very withdrawn and kept his thoughts to himself. He also tried to run 3 teams as the HC for each one. Sometimes with 2 out of 3 playing on the same weekends. He had more than enough as he would take anyone that showed up at tryouts and stick them on one of the teams to get the money. So after the second dismal tournament with them we left. Several others wanted to go with us and start our own team.
Other teams we left on more cordial terms and we always didn't leave the coaches in a lurch. Sometimes when people start leaving teams, for whatever reasons, it can seem like the opportunity others were waiting for to leave. Sometimes the parent-speak is true and there are problems on the team that do not provide a good expereince for the DD's involved. Also some people see it as the rats leaving a sinking ship and jump also.