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I guess my question is what are you going to do with the advice?
Yeah under contract in 12u is pretty much a load of bs. Either pay off your dues and move on, or stiff them and move on, or cut a deal with the coach and move on. Sounds like a case of some parents figuring out a way to maximize playing time for they daughter while minimizing their expenditures. They aren't the first to run that scam and they won't be the last. Shame on your coach for enabling it.That's messed up.
And "under contract"? What on Earth is that? This family needs to pick a team and stick to it. As a parent, I wouldn't like this one bit, even if we win more because of it.
If the coach is dead-set on keeping things this way, there's probably nothing you can do to change his mind. You then have the option of either accepting it, or finding another team.
If Guest Player is taking significant time away from your DD, I will assume that GP is a more-skilled player (if she's not, that's a bigger can of worms). A way to approach this could be for your DD to get to work developing her skills to earn the starting spot. Being "just as good" isn't enough. Be better. Undeniably better. Be so good you can't be ignored.
Doesn’t really sound like a guest player but a #11 on your roster. Curious if she’s paying dues or is the rest of
She's not paying any.Doesn’t really sound like a guest player but a #11 on your roster. Curious if she’s paying dues or is the rest of the team covering that?
I'm not sure what to do at this point. Just seeing if anyone has encountered a situation like this before. I've seen guest players and my daughter has guest played also..but never for a year, and always when a team was short.I guess my question is what are you going to do with the advice?
Supposedly they can't afford to. The frustrating part is the promises to join the team after fall, after spring...she tried out for her team and signed the contract AFTER our tryouts(that she didn't come to)Yeah under contract in 12u is pretty much a load of bs. Either pay off your dues and move on, or stiff them and move on, or cut a deal with the coach and move on. Sounds like a case of some parents figuring out a way to maximize playing time for they daughter while minimizing their expenditures. They aren't the first to run that scam and they won't be the last. Shame on your coach for enabling it.
Supposedly they can't afford to. The frustrating part is the promises to join the team after fall, after spring...she tried out for her team and signed the contract AFTER our tryouts(that she didn't come to)
Well you can talk to the coach about It but it seems like he is fine with it so…I'm not sure what to do at this point. Just seeing if anyone has encountered a situation like this before. I've seen guest players and my daughter has guest played also..but never for a year, and always when a team was short.
Does this team happen to be from the state of NJ?Supposedly they can't afford to. The frustrating part is the promises to join the team after fall, after spring...she tried out for her team and signed the contract AFTER our tryouts(that she didn't come to)
I'm not sure what to do at this point. Just seeing if anyone has encountered a situation like this before. I've seen guest players and my daughter has guest played also..but never for a year, and always when a team was short.
10 players really isn't enough and 11 is stretching it so I can see why the coach is OK with a player who fits in well with the team turning up and playing regularly. Not saying it is 100% right and I wouldn't handle the way he apparently is - but I do understand.In fall we had 11 regular girls and for spring we have 10, all highly committed players. My daughter has played travel years and I've never encountered a situation like this one, and it's a little frustrating. Any thoughts/advice?