Monkey Sports (homerunmonkey.com or baseballmonkey.com - same thing) is a reliable source that I have used many times. I've heard too many bad stories about softball.com to gamble.
Baseballmonkey.com is good. We actually have their retail store MonkeySports 10 mins from home, so it's easy to see in store for us.
Justballgloves.com has a 100-day return policy if you don't like it for any reason, even after you break it in. Slightly more money, but worth being able to return it just in case.
eastbay.com & amazon for sales and specials on random stuff.
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I ended up getting the green No Errors bag from Amazon, getting a $200 bag for $99 she can put up with green. Was also able to get a Schutt S 3 chest protector for $27. Sorry Eric I went ahead and ordered a bat from justbats.com.