Anyone deal with it in sports?
I'm 18, my sister's 15. Last year, she occasionally played up on my 16U team which was annoying. To be honest, I don't believe that she would have ever played softball if she hadn't have been jealous of me. I was playing and getting all the attention, so she decided to play.
It's really, really annoying. I've gotten okay with it now, but softball used to be my time AWAY from her, something that I did with just my dad. Then she started infiltrating our private practice sessions. She is nowhere near as serious as I am, so that was just annoying. Last year, due to an operation, she couldn't play JV but she did work as a trainer. This year, she plans on trying out. As a senior (she's a freshman), it's possible that she could be on Varsity. NOT very likely, but the fact that she could be on my team annoys me. It's bad enough that they frequently do stuff with Varsity and JV together (like lift weights) so she's infringing on my space, my time with my girls. We can't speak as freely in front of her either.
Any suggestions on how to deal with it?
My DD's are years apart but I understand where your coming from. Oldest was always just me and her and now younger DD is infringing on the "just the two of us".
Any suggestions on how to deal with it?
To be honest, at this stage in things I'm happy if I just get to see my father for a couple of hours a week. He works nights, so I see him in passing throughout the week but he's always asleep. Then, on the weekends he's busy with things with his hunt club, softball practice, etc. He's helping coach the 16u team in my hometown and my sister is playing for a 14u in a neighboring county (the schedules don't conflict, so it all works out).My girls are seven years apart. 14 and 7. My oldest is worried that her younger sister might turn out to be a better pitcher. Unfortunately pitching practice, indoors, is at two seperate facilities. I drop off older DD and go with younger DD. Now that HS ball is starting, I don't even practice with older DD. HS ball sets some strict rules on what the girls are allowed to do outside of school. I think for now I will just plan on doing more one on one dinners with older DD. Spend time together outside of softball.
Glad that I could give you some insight. Currently, we've got a set of sisters on my Varsity team. One is a junior and the other is a freshman. They are rather close, but they do bicker some. For instance, when we warm up and throw, they throw together and they'll nit pick at each other, the way sisters do. We've also had a set of sisters on the same team in the past and it wasn't good because they didn't get along. I think the oldest one thought the younger one was stealing her thunder. They were a pitcher-catcher combo, so that was always interesting to see them in action.amanda, sorry you have to deal with this issue. It is great to hear your perspective on things. Really, as a parent & coach, its great to see what you have to say. My DD#1 is 4 years older than DD#2. IT has always been my goal to have them both play on the same HS team. I believe #2 kid could do it if she worked hard. However, I never considered how it would affect DD#1. Great insight thanks.