- Jun 19, 2019
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I do believe every journey is different and understand that all didn’t think of it at an early age.
Yes I would say that's possible but its a fine line. As much as we love our kids it is probably best to NOT go to every game/practice. Let them play on their own without being watched, its good for them. The girls who I managed/coached who always had daddy (or mom) lurking and watching all quit by teen years.
I am their coach.I wanted to touch on this too.
I don't know you, and I'm on the internet. So I can be quite frank.
You are potentially on a path to be that parent that no coach wants on his/her team. Please be very, very careful with that. When they're on the field with their coach, you are not in charge. You are not their coach. Be supportive, be positive. Don't coach them from the bleachers, don't walk over to the dugout every 5 minutes to talk to them.
And, as said above, sometimes just drop them at practice and leave. Force yourself out of there. It's good for everyone related to the team.
Now one way around that is to be a coach. But of course that has its own challenges.
I just hate to see little girls not get to play on the team they want to play on because of their parents. It happens so often it's almost shocking to me.
I have made the comment that I’m working on trying to get my girls to college and have had comments that I shouldn’t be thinking about that. So with that said, should a parent/coach be thinking of college? I dream big,think big and have seen in my life how I can have a lot of control over what I do. So I believe the same for my kids. They are athletic and smart and seem to have other talents that fall in line with softball skills. They are only 9 and 10 but unless there comes a day that I realize they are not ahead of others, I feel I should think of college. I understand that if a girl simply does not have talent, then yeah maybe not but I believe in dreaming big and I’m sure most that have succeeded would say the same. And yes it has to be their dream and at this point they do love it and want to play as long as they can. I’m not just asking specifically for my girls, but would like to know everyone’s opinion on when is the appropriate time for people to start thinking college.
I think spend most of your time focusing on being the best softball player she can be. My child wanted to play college all the way until about 12 years old. Then she is 100% sure. So I told her to just be the best high school player she can be. Continue to work hard at a game you love. Then you can make that decision later.I have made the comment that I’m working on trying to get my girls to college and have had comments that I shouldn’t be thinking about that. So with that said, should a parent/coach be thinking of college? I dream big,think big and have seen in my life how I can have a lot of control over what I do. So I believe the same for my kids. They are athletic and smart and seem to have other talents that fall in line with softball skills. They are only 9 and 10 but unless there comes a day that I realize they are not ahead of others, I feel I should think of college. I understand that if a girl simply does not have talent, then yeah maybe not but I believe in dreaming big and I’m sure most that have succeeded would say the same. And yes it has to be their dream and at this point they do love it and want to play as long as they can. I’m not just asking specifically for my girls, but would like to know everyone’s opinion on when is the appropriate time for people to start thinking college.