Amen. Our softball rec league required everyone sit once before anyone sat a second time, so rules kept playing time similar. Before that in LL, we voluntarily had everyone sit 1-2 innings per game and it was very satisfying winning against teams that had half their team sit half the game. That said, we didn't equalize total innings played across games.This is *REC* ball. All girls should get equal playing time.
Also...it is better to give all the girls equal playing time and lose than to play "stars" for the whole game and win.
*BUT*...you can win by giving equal playing time.
Having everyone sit means you have to use multiple players at each position. We rotated players between IF and OF except for a couple where IF wouldn't be safe. Innings for pitchers were also limited so you had to develop/use at least 2. We had our strongest defense possible behind the #2 pitcher.
IME the most successful coaches in rec were the ones that developed their weaker players the most. The better players don't have as much room for improvement. Developing weaker hitters is especially true when everyone is in the batting order.
The worst coaches in rec were the ones that marginalized their weaker players and hoped they wouldn't show up for games.