POLL~ my daughter doesn't like a couple players on the team

[RADcatcher]

it's only dislike? Suck it up buttercup. HS and college (and life) is going to be full of having to cope, work, deal etc., with people that we all dislike.

That is funny! Wanted to give
the laughter Emoji

But also want to give a thumbs up

 

[nchesher]

My daughter has brought this type of thing up a couple of times over the years. You're never going to get 10-12 girls together who will all be best friends, it's just not going to happen. As long as the team can get along on the field - ball is ball, it's about the game. You don't have to be "friends" with any of them, just be good teammates.

 

[Vertigo]

You should absolutely quit a job where you don't get along with your co-workers.

LOL - I’d be unemployed then. Lots of egos in the medical field that you learn to just deal with. It’s everywhere.

 

[uncdrew]

absolute no-brainer. It's game, you're supposed to be having fun, it's HER decision.

I agree here.

I certainly don't like quitting, and if we do we do it correctly. Talk to coach, address the issue, wait for the season to end (if that's best for the team), etc.

However, this is supposed to be fun. If it's not fun, why on Earth are you doing it? I'm not going to force my kid to continue a crappy experience. My opinion on this is biased to my girls, who can get along with anyone and don't mind if they aren't besties with everyone. So there simply hasn't been a time when they've not liked girls on the team. But if there were mean girls, girls insulting other girls, etc. Yeah, we leave the team.

 

[uncdrew]

Will this player quit a future job if she doesn’t vibe with a co-worker?

Sure, why not? If you can make the situation better for yourself you should do so.

 

[Vertigo]

Sure, why not? If you can make the situation better for yourself you should do so.

Eh I think it’s a balance. If it’s a well-paying job with great bennies and one co-worker is a problem? I have a talk with them myself to try and sort it out. I don’t automatically go looking for a new job.

I think we’ve lost the art of doing that by being quick to either complain about it to a boss or quitting.

 

[uncdrew]

Eh I think it’s a balance. If it’s a well-paying job with great bennies and one co-worker is a problem? I have a talk with them myself to try and sort it out. I don’t automatically go looking for a new job.

I think we’ve lost the art of doing that by being quick to either complain about it to a boss or quitting.

Agreed.

Many factors involved with having/finding the best job. But sometimes people are so set on a "you shouldn't ever quit" philosophy, and that can be unhealthy. Quitting, as I'm sure you know, can often be the best move.

 

[CoachCeetar]

No one's saying quit your job to work at McDonalds or quit a great team to play for the a crappy pick-up league team, but if you're on a team/job/relationship/etc that is displeasing and you see something else that meets your criteria for a team/job/relationship/etc?

it's a no-brainer.

Why suffer if you don't have to? Obviously if the problem is they like EVO and you don't, and they keep wanting to sing the lyrics...maybe that's not enough to upend things. It's all a balance. But don't be afraid of change. Not everything has to be a struggle.

 

[Vertigo]

Quitting, as I'm sure you know, can often be the best move.

In extreme circumstances I agree.

 

[_MIA_]

You are supposed to get along with people? When did that rule change?