Great story. I like the point of thinking first of our abilities! Know the game. Our role.This is a great post. One the eve of one of the biggest games of DD's life I gave her the prep talk about being a warrior and going into the game fearless.. She was so pumped up that I would have bet my life that she would dominate that game in the circle. Sadly she lost a totally winnable game. A day later I asked her if she was fearless and she said "Yes I was and that was the problem, I needed to fear walking a batter or giving up a hit to be effective". I was confused but said okay. Didn't want to push back. Since then she does her thing and does it well.
Earlier this year I read a book that referenced the warrior dial ( Chop wood carry water). In this part of the book the sage spoke about how we must turn our warrior dial up when playing weak opponents and turn it down when facing strong opponents. That made sense to me as DD may have turned it up too much because of me, during that winnable game. We learn as we go.
Again think smart.
Believe in yourself.
Here is another point of reference that comes to mind when I read your story.
Learning to ride a bike.
Some kids jump on a bike without realizing or knowing the dangers that can happen. Some immediately crash and get hurt. Some don't want to get back on.
While others do.
After learning how to ride a bike many people ride it without concern, comfortable to ride without fear because of developed confidence!