you might actually, depending on the industry/profession. might have longer term consequences that outweigh the short term benefit. so it all depends. my leaning towards decommitment has more to do with the coaches behaviour. now another way to go about it might be to say I have offers to your DD and X others for one spot, first one to accept/commit gets it. this actually happens in college recruiting. but this coach sounded like they were just bluffing, and had noone equal or better waiting on your response, he was just a jerk.
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you might actually, depending on the industry/profession. might have longer term consequences that outweigh the short term benefit. so it all depends. my leaning towards decommitment has more to do with the coaches behaviour. now another way to go about it might be to say I have offers to your DD and X others for one spot, first one to accept/commit gets it. this actually happens in college recruiting. but this coach sounded like they were just bluffing, and had noone equal or better waiting on your response, he was just a jerk.
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Good point. Didn't see it that way with the job situation
The "There's no I in team post" just happened to us recently!!!
And as soon as our season was over, two of the affected parents unfriended me on Facebook! lol
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Should I be upfront and tell B team coach that this offer has come up and we didn't anticipate getting an offer but it may be a better opportunity OR just wait until we make our decision.
I definitely wouldn't tell the B coach unless you decide to go with A team. Like Fuzzy said, don't wait too long to make you decisions. Good pitchers aren't easy to find.
Be prepared for the potential playing time on team A. When my DD went to A team one year ago, it took her down several notches for a while. Always being lead off batter, #2 pitcher, to the bottom of the batting order most of the season and pitched 19 innings out of 115 games. She knew ahead of time that she wouldn't get much pitching time due to our heavy pitching, but it was part of the sacrifice of being on the best team. In the end, we have no regrets going the A route. DD still keeps up with pitching lessons for school ball, so at least she still gets to pitch sometimes. Just keep that in mind when making your decision.
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If that was the case, hands down would take B over A. She wants to go to a team where she pitches. But A offered pretty much the same as B. Would start as #2 at the start of the season. Would need to work hard to stay there or move up, would get catching time, and development in other positions. Also another pro: its a well known org that practices 15 minutes away from us.
I know my DD and she will work hard to be the best pitcher she can be. She loves it. So not worried in that department.
1st........... no need to talk to Coach B until the decision has been made.
2nd......... Coach B lost any goodwill when he changed the rules on you. After agreeing to give you a week to make a decision, he cannot ask for a decision right away without ramifications. In my opinion you are free to change your commitment to Coach A without feeling a bit of guilt, as that was the deal you agreed to in the beginning. Don't let someone else's lack of integrity (Coach B) force you into a decision you don't want to make.
Surrounding your DD with amazing players will only push her all the harder to be the best that she can be. If A is offering the same playing time, I would go that route. Team B is the one that put you in this position by not giving you the time to decide that you asked for. Players change their mind on a regular basis, even mid-season sometimes. Decisions are never easy. We knew what team was right for my DD when her eyes lit up when she heard she was offered a spot on the team. What team is your DD most excited about? It will all work out!
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