Glad that you've shared this story and a similar one in a previous post. What you're discussing is more ''real life'' and relatable and frankly more interesting in may ways than stories of glory.
I always roll my eyes when I hear an athlete, after some great accomplishment, say, ''This proves that hard work pays off.'' So, you're the only one who worked hard? What about the one who worked hard and lost in the first round?
Hard work does generally pay off, but not always how we hope. Natural talent and luck are big factors, too. Then sometimes those who work the hardest want it more and therefore don't compete as relaxed as those who care less. The hard workers may feel they have more to lose (aka pressure). The underdog has a competitive advantage.
My DD has experienced some of this. On one hand, if I look back to her days in early travel ball until now, she's far exceeded my expectations. Never thought she'd make some of the teams she's made. On the other hand, if I go back just 2 years, I would've thought she'd be ahead of where she is, and HS ball has been somewhat of a disappointment.
All I can say to encourage you is that it's a worthwhile journey regardless of the on-field success. Disappointment and frustration in healthy doses are good for kids. It lowers our expectations so that future success will be appreciated that much more.
One thing that has gotten me through all the ups and downs is the assurance that some great moment or memory is always on the horizon. DD is either playing well, or she's about to. Never mind that it's never permanent and that cringe-worthy moments also await.
Just wait for something good. It's going to happen.
That's just good logic and is worth of re-reading for everyone....