We want our child to learn responsibility and dedication. I hope you can help wit this as you will be their first boss so to speak and it's a great learning chance for life and how to handle it.
You said it best right here ^^^^
When you put other priorities in front of your job and your commitment, there are consequences. When you do your job and meet expectations, there are rewards.
This is a great lesson for DD to learn.
We all have choices and the coach has a team to run. Without rules for the team and attendance, there would be chaos and people would show when they want.
That being said, your #3 only happens once and cannot be moved to a more convenient time. This is one that should not be missed. For what it's worth, our coach has very similar rules; however cancels practices during the dance nights.