- Jul 26, 2010
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After her strikeout, she went to a corner of the dugout to be alone and quietly cried. She didn't make a scene, and wasn't seeking attention. She just cried because she was disappointed and mad at herself. I am concerned this behavoir might make her undesirable for her coaches. As a coach, would you consider this tolerable behavoir? It's obviously not desired or prefered, and something I will continue to try to improve. I grew up in a family of brothers (no sisters), so I'm kind of feeling my way with how girls handle things and what other people can/will tolerate. Thank you to everyone for their help and insight.
This is not acceptable. As a pitcher, she has to be a leader. The mood of the entire team will wax and wane around her, and she has to be aware of that.
There is a GREAT chapter in Hal's "Sneaky Softball Pitching" book about this. I encourage you to share it with your daughter. My daughter has a laminated copy of this page (Sorry Hal) in her bag and I have her refer to it often. She suffers from the same issues as your daughter, and still has a lot to learn about controlling how she behaves. It is fine to feel, and fine to be emotional, but how she expresses those emotions is another matter entirely.
She needs to understand that her teammates care about her, and if she's crying in the dugout, her teammates (and coaches) are going to be worried about her, when they should be focused on their game and doing their jobs. She's distracting her team and thus hurting her team by behaving in such a manner, even though she is not doing it maliciously.
-W