02Crush
Way past gone
We have two parents who are becoming disruptive. What would you do?
Parent A - Feels he "knows" everything and everyone and is happy to tell us all. He also misses more practices than any family. It has recently come to my attention that halfway through the Spring 2013 season he is prone to open his mouth and say things that directly or indirectly single out other players as performing poorly during games. He also likes to openly question why I make game time decisions the way I do. His latest was escapade was to call me on his way home from practice (with his DD in the car listening) and basically tell me in a nice way that I am not a good coach and confuse and frustrate his DD. I was as polite as I could be, answered his questions and thanked him for his input. I then told him it was not our goal to confuse anyone. I also mentioned that I felt this could be happening b/c of how much practice his DD was missing and that in my Code of Conduct he signed it states that you get in what you put in which means Practices are Mandatory.
Parent B - Feels he know everything as well but is less likely to openly chastise another family's player. However behind your back he might with whom he feels is the right Dad. He has started to openly express his anger and frustration with his own DD through the fence-line during games. He has now gone as far as pulling her aside after games and getting onto her. All of this is making her cry more often and leading to her being less engaged mentally. Despite all of this it is not my child and since he is not violent in anyway I have stayed out of it despite not wanting to.
These two have seemed to become good friends at all events. All this info has come to me from 4 families on the team that never have issues with. Usually I do not place much stock on one singular issue I am told about. But when there are many expressed concerns from multiple sources it seems more like a trend. I am interested in other coaches opinions. Keep in mind that I am very into commitment. I ask for 1 year's commitment in an effort to develop unity among the players. Therefore I usually let this type stuff work itself out and deal with it when the summer is over via cuts or family meetings to address it. My thinking has been that it is never the kids fault (age 10) and therefore I remain committed to the player which is why I complete the season before taking action. At this point I am open to input on polite yet firm ways to deal with this.
Parent A - Feels he "knows" everything and everyone and is happy to tell us all. He also misses more practices than any family. It has recently come to my attention that halfway through the Spring 2013 season he is prone to open his mouth and say things that directly or indirectly single out other players as performing poorly during games. He also likes to openly question why I make game time decisions the way I do. His latest was escapade was to call me on his way home from practice (with his DD in the car listening) and basically tell me in a nice way that I am not a good coach and confuse and frustrate his DD. I was as polite as I could be, answered his questions and thanked him for his input. I then told him it was not our goal to confuse anyone. I also mentioned that I felt this could be happening b/c of how much practice his DD was missing and that in my Code of Conduct he signed it states that you get in what you put in which means Practices are Mandatory.
Parent B - Feels he know everything as well but is less likely to openly chastise another family's player. However behind your back he might with whom he feels is the right Dad. He has started to openly express his anger and frustration with his own DD through the fence-line during games. He has now gone as far as pulling her aside after games and getting onto her. All of this is making her cry more often and leading to her being less engaged mentally. Despite all of this it is not my child and since he is not violent in anyway I have stayed out of it despite not wanting to.
These two have seemed to become good friends at all events. All this info has come to me from 4 families on the team that never have issues with. Usually I do not place much stock on one singular issue I am told about. But when there are many expressed concerns from multiple sources it seems more like a trend. I am interested in other coaches opinions. Keep in mind that I am very into commitment. I ask for 1 year's commitment in an effort to develop unity among the players. Therefore I usually let this type stuff work itself out and deal with it when the summer is over via cuts or family meetings to address it. My thinking has been that it is never the kids fault (age 10) and therefore I remain committed to the player which is why I complete the season before taking action. At this point I am open to input on polite yet firm ways to deal with this.
