Cannonball
Ex "Expert"
- Feb 25, 2009
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Buckeyeguy, while not as drastic as Lickety Split, I might say that there is merit in what he says. I don't know what your situation is with your dd other than what you have typed. However, as a coach, I do know what my situation was with mine. The pressure on any child of a coach in a school setting can be overwhelming. So, the response might be to shut down. The idea that you told your dd not to try out was, imo, harsh given that you don't have the same relationship with others trying out and that you have measured her against the unknown and she lost. Besides all of that, you have taken a young lady who is dealing with all the other problems of puberty and told her she doesn't measure up in your eyes.
When I was in HS, I was the star of my HS Team. My brother was the smallest kid in school and so, not physically close to me. One day he asked me if I knew what it was like to be my brother. I did not. He told me that no matter how hard he tried and what he did, everyone wanted him to be me. Long story short, he asked how an average player with good intent ever match the star? So, he gave up.
You are evaluating your dd with the emotion of a Father regardless of whether you think you are or not. That's not fair to her to then have her home life held against her. In that regard, it takes two to tangle. JMHO!
When I was in HS, I was the star of my HS Team. My brother was the smallest kid in school and so, not physically close to me. One day he asked me if I knew what it was like to be my brother. I did not. He told me that no matter how hard he tried and what he did, everyone wanted him to be me. Long story short, he asked how an average player with good intent ever match the star? So, he gave up.
You are evaluating your dd with the emotion of a Father regardless of whether you think you are or not. That's not fair to her to then have her home life held against her. In that regard, it takes two to tangle. JMHO!