- Feb 25, 2009
Sweet. And hopefully your DD played a key role in at least some of the wins.At least the coach didnt call you, invite you to come on a visit, then after you get there, she tells you to go tour the campus by yourself. Daughter works out with team for 3 hours, when it is over coach comes over, says she would really like to stay and chat but has some personal things to deal with and cant stay. Really would like daughter to come play for them, but she has already offered out all her money and wont know for 60 days if she has any left. She leaves and tells us one of the players we know will show daughter the dorms. We watch as assistant coach proceeds to verbally berate the girls for 30 minutes while running wind sprints dropping the F bomb about 100 times in the process.
Daughter chose not to go to that school, signed with another and beat 1st school about 8 of the 10 times they played them.
I doubt it's really different. People are just people. Some are nicer than others and sometimes the nice ones have a bad day. Count yourselves lucky to see this side of the coach now instead of later.Comp, what a terrible thing. I feel for you and your daughter. Yes, I guess I should look at it like I invited us. However, we drove almost 3 hours and so, some courtesy would be expected. We did see some great games and so, it was still worth it.
I've gone and talked to a lot of coaches as a head high school coach. I've always found them accessible but I do have a good reputation in baseball. I guess things are different to some degree in softball and do realize the focus is more on travel teams and recruiting. I just wasn't expecting this.
Yes, one of the things I tell parents and kids is, don't be shy. If they want you, they will be glad to get an email from you every time you have something new to tell them like a new scheduled game or a four hit game or some such. Coaches like to recruit kids who want to be there. Let them know that. If they don't want you and think you email or call too much, what do you care? If they are impressed with your play and you are often on their minds they may recommend you to another coach.You have to develop a thick skin when you want your kid recruited.
Very true...my DD ended up at Ohio U because the coach at Kansas decided to take another player, but the Kansas coach recommended my DD to the OU coach.If they are impressed with your play and you are often on their minds they may recommend you to another coach.