Coach/Parent Dilema

[Quake Softball]

Looking for some opinions on this issue that I will face in May.

I coach a 14U team and my DD is a pitcher in 8th grade. She will be pitching for her HS Sophomore team and our TB team this Spring/Summer. Our TB team plays in a league on Wednesdays. We just got the schedule for the HS team yesterday and they have games on the last two Wednesdays of our league play.

My DD will be going to the HS games. My question is do I go to the HS games also or stay with the TB team. This is going to be the only conflict with the game schedule all season.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

 

[Sweet Lou]

Stay with your TB team and let DW go watch DD at those HS games. Unless they are HS playoff games, then let AC take TB team those 2 games.

 

[Quake Softball]

Actually, my DW works 2nd shift and won't be able to attend. Which is why I was considering to go. That way one of us will be there.

 

[Sweet Lou]

Tough call. If AC is OK running the show and has some support go watch DD.

edit - though I will say that HS sports are a different animal that local/tb sports. At least they were when I was growing up. While mom or dad or both came to all my local BB games growing up, I don't recall them making any of my HS games which usually started soon after school ended that day.Maybe times have changed, my kids aren't in HS yet.

 

[Momo'sDad]

I would say 'tough call' for me, too, but I already know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will NOT be coaching my DD in 14u. Or 12u. Or even 3rd-year 10u if this keeps up. lol

 

[Greenmonsters]

Stay with your TB team and let DW go watch DD at those HS games. Unless they are HS playoff games, then let AC take TB team those 2 games.

This^^^^^. You made a commitment to the team, set a good example. And don't worry, your DD will have 4 more years of HS SB

 

[Comp]

When you accepted the coaching position you made a commitment to 9+ girls. If your daughter is only in 8th grade there will be plenty of future high school games for you to watch.

 

[Sparky Guy]

Our TB team plays in a league on Wednesdays. We just got the schedule for the HS team yesterday and they have games on the last two Wednesdays of our league play.

You are several months away from the conflict. Can you make arrangements to reschedule the TB games??? I bet if you called the coaches explaining your situation to them they may be able to help in both or one of the dates. The worst that could happen is they say "No" and you've lost nothing but a little time and effort. Most people are accommodating if given enough notice.

 

[Amy in AZ.]

Pray for rain and lots of it.

 

[fpdad01]

Seriously, not much thought in this one... I like the attempt to reschedule idea best and Yes, you've made a commitment to all the team however, If you somehow got ill and couldn't be there to coach would your team just forfeit ?? Don't think so. Hopefully you have enough trust and faith in your assistant coaches, and they know enough to run two games. (especially league games) Been in this position before (from asst coach position) due to coach being tossed, coach having to work, coach having other obligations and had no problem filling in. Have coached basketball and football and had my assistant fill in in league play and currently coaching an 18u team and would have no problem with my assistant filling in.