So the coach is basically upset because he gave your daughter an ultimatum, she made a decision based on that ultimatum, and that decision was not the choice that the coach wanted her to make. Do I have that correct?
That is the way it seems to me. I have no idea what the coach was thinking.
DD#1 loved softball, and specifically pitching. DD#1 did give up everything, other than band, to play softball. If the coach had given her the same ultimatum, DD#1 would have said, "OK." DD#3, who was a better all-around athlete than DD#1, liked softball and enjoyed playing it. But, she would never give up other sports to play softball. Perhaps she thought that DD#3 was like DD#1.
In travel ball, teams sometimes don't have a place for a kid who isn't 100% committed. I understand and respect that.
Softball is her first choice and she devotes most of her time to softball, maybe I’m wrong, but I think basketball helps with her conditioning and quickness in softball.
Absolutely correct.