I am the head coach of a rec team 14u/12u. Long story here I know.
I picked these two sister girls in the spring draft that were both phenomenal in the tryout, I was very excited to get them on our team. Unfortunately these kids have a mother that comes along too (more on that later).
These two kids are very much our standout players, they also play for their school team as well.
While these kids are good, they aren't as good as mom thinks, I certainly think they have a ton of talent and have the chance to be awesome players.
We are pretty sure that she hasn't liked us as coaches from the beginning of the season.
We believe the kind of coach the mom wanted was one that yells at the kids whenever they make a mistake. That isn't our style, this is a rec league, we have a lot of kids that have only played for 1 or 2 seasons and several that haven't ever played at all. We have the philosophy that the players will get better from practice and experience, not by being yelled at.
We have not had the best season, we were 4-4 going in to 2 games last weekend.
In the first game we took the undefeated team of the league which hasn't lost a game last season or this season into the last inning with a 1 run lead. Unfortunately one of the standout kids had a rough inning pitching and we gave up some runs (many) and we lost. As coaches we were very excited to be able to hang with this other team as long as we did, we didn't care we lost at all.
I didn't see mom afterwards, but she made the comment to an assistant coach that we should have pulled her daughter from the mound in the last inning. We had visited the kid during the inning and she absolutely didn't want to come out. We figured we had already lost the game at that point and really we didn't want her to lose confidence, because she normally is a good pitcher during the games.
Forward to the next game the next day, the whole team came out flat from the beginning.
I think they were worn out from the night before. Well, we didn't do so well. Mom's two standout players played pretty much their worst game of the season. The pitcher had her worst game and the sister was catcher for a few innings also had her worst game there too. As coaches while we were disappointed that we didn't win or even play well, we aren't going to sit around and blame anyone for the loss. As a team we didn't play well, as a team we lost. We hope we can rally back next game.
After the loss mom was irate yelling at her kids that they were done with the team and didn't have to meet behind the dugout with the team, I missed hearing that otherwise I probably would have said something I might have regretted. Later on one of the assistants was talking to her, (unaware of the previous statement at the time too), she flat out made up lies claiming that some of the other parents were talking badly about her kids not doing well that day. We know both of the people she was making this claim about and when we heard this no way did we believe they would say that, secondly we asked them ourselves and of course it didn't happen.
We pretty much pegged this woman as psycho a while ago. As another example of the crazy behavior from her…at the beginning of one of our at bats, her daughter was up first that inning, for some reason when she came off the field she went to talk to mom at the opening of the fence by the dug out. I had no idea what she was doing, I just called her name and told her to get ready to get up to bat, mom at that began to freak out to the other parents and started saying loudly, "did he just say I couldn't talk to my daughter?", luckily another coach from another team was there and had to remind her, that it was her turn at bat.
I tend to think that if we were winning, then mom would have no problem with the coaches, however because we are now 4-6 and her kids aren't looking like the star players she thinks they are it is somehow the coaches fault.
Funny, about a week ago, mom couldn't come to the game, so ex husband dad (whom is very quiet and very polite) brought them, the kids played a great game, in fact the whole team played a great game. The next time I saw mom, she remarked that the kids said she couldn't come anymore because they do better without her there. I think that there is a lot of truth to that comment unfortunately.
We really like the two kids on the team, they are both friendly and do play well most of the time.
What we don't like is mom. She blames the coaches for her kids poor play. Mind you this is a rec team, we can hardly ever have practices because the fields are taken up by games, also these two kids both play on their school team which practices every day. Unfortunately the school team hasn't fared well this season either, but we are not involved in that team.
We have 3 or 4 games left in the season. We are not planning to have them being back on the team in the Fall, we figure mom won't have them back on our team, and if mom is around I guess the feeling is mutual.
In general us coaches have handled mom as politely as we can throughout the season, but after the last game with her piss poor attitude and the flat out lying to our face, I am not sure we can continue to be nice any longer.
Sorry for such a long story, but any advice would be appreciated.
I picked these two sister girls in the spring draft that were both phenomenal in the tryout, I was very excited to get them on our team. Unfortunately these kids have a mother that comes along too (more on that later).
These two kids are very much our standout players, they also play for their school team as well.
While these kids are good, they aren't as good as mom thinks, I certainly think they have a ton of talent and have the chance to be awesome players.
We are pretty sure that she hasn't liked us as coaches from the beginning of the season.
We believe the kind of coach the mom wanted was one that yells at the kids whenever they make a mistake. That isn't our style, this is a rec league, we have a lot of kids that have only played for 1 or 2 seasons and several that haven't ever played at all. We have the philosophy that the players will get better from practice and experience, not by being yelled at.
We have not had the best season, we were 4-4 going in to 2 games last weekend.
In the first game we took the undefeated team of the league which hasn't lost a game last season or this season into the last inning with a 1 run lead. Unfortunately one of the standout kids had a rough inning pitching and we gave up some runs (many) and we lost. As coaches we were very excited to be able to hang with this other team as long as we did, we didn't care we lost at all.
I didn't see mom afterwards, but she made the comment to an assistant coach that we should have pulled her daughter from the mound in the last inning. We had visited the kid during the inning and she absolutely didn't want to come out. We figured we had already lost the game at that point and really we didn't want her to lose confidence, because she normally is a good pitcher during the games.
Forward to the next game the next day, the whole team came out flat from the beginning.
I think they were worn out from the night before. Well, we didn't do so well. Mom's two standout players played pretty much their worst game of the season. The pitcher had her worst game and the sister was catcher for a few innings also had her worst game there too. As coaches while we were disappointed that we didn't win or even play well, we aren't going to sit around and blame anyone for the loss. As a team we didn't play well, as a team we lost. We hope we can rally back next game.
After the loss mom was irate yelling at her kids that they were done with the team and didn't have to meet behind the dugout with the team, I missed hearing that otherwise I probably would have said something I might have regretted. Later on one of the assistants was talking to her, (unaware of the previous statement at the time too), she flat out made up lies claiming that some of the other parents were talking badly about her kids not doing well that day. We know both of the people she was making this claim about and when we heard this no way did we believe they would say that, secondly we asked them ourselves and of course it didn't happen.
We pretty much pegged this woman as psycho a while ago. As another example of the crazy behavior from her…at the beginning of one of our at bats, her daughter was up first that inning, for some reason when she came off the field she went to talk to mom at the opening of the fence by the dug out. I had no idea what she was doing, I just called her name and told her to get ready to get up to bat, mom at that began to freak out to the other parents and started saying loudly, "did he just say I couldn't talk to my daughter?", luckily another coach from another team was there and had to remind her, that it was her turn at bat.
I tend to think that if we were winning, then mom would have no problem with the coaches, however because we are now 4-6 and her kids aren't looking like the star players she thinks they are it is somehow the coaches fault.
Funny, about a week ago, mom couldn't come to the game, so ex husband dad (whom is very quiet and very polite) brought them, the kids played a great game, in fact the whole team played a great game. The next time I saw mom, she remarked that the kids said she couldn't come anymore because they do better without her there. I think that there is a lot of truth to that comment unfortunately.
We really like the two kids on the team, they are both friendly and do play well most of the time.
What we don't like is mom. She blames the coaches for her kids poor play. Mind you this is a rec team, we can hardly ever have practices because the fields are taken up by games, also these two kids both play on their school team which practices every day. Unfortunately the school team hasn't fared well this season either, but we are not involved in that team.
We have 3 or 4 games left in the season. We are not planning to have them being back on the team in the Fall, we figure mom won't have them back on our team, and if mom is around I guess the feeling is mutual.
In general us coaches have handled mom as politely as we can throughout the season, but after the last game with her piss poor attitude and the flat out lying to our face, I am not sure we can continue to be nice any longer.
Sorry for such a long story, but any advice would be appreciated.
