- Feb 3, 2011
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I know that some people - young or old, male or female - are generally more sensitive than others.
I was wrong in the way I managed the situation, but I do not see anything wrong my policy against players chit-chatting with friends and family outside the dugout during games.
The player did later apologize to me for what she did (grandmother gave her a muffin, so she decided to snack), but although I told her we were cool and not to worry about it or take it personally, my tone was only a little contrite and I did not express an apology to her. That's on me, and I will try to make that right tomorrow. I wasn't short or dismissive, I just don't think I gave her what she needed at that moment.
My case: I want the players totally focused during games, because their safety is my primary concern. I notified the parents of this before the season and put it in writing.
If a kid is diabetic, let us know. If you see that a kid needs water or to be cooled off immediately, let us know.
If your kid has behavioral issues or has trouble focusing, let me know.
At the start, one parent did let me know what to watch for or what I might experience with their child and gave me a suggestion on handling it. We haven't had any problems whatsoever.
Now, a parent is upset with me and thinks my policy is wrong. She understands the emphasis on safety and tells me she wants her DD to learn how to compete, but feels that the players should be able to converse with friends and family when not in the game.
The team we played yesterday hit 2 home runs. These were not ground balls that kept rolling. These were shots. Most teams won't, but they hit us hard and often. I admit to being more protective than normal, but was actually less intense overall because we had no chance of beating this team.
I was wrong in the way I managed the situation, but I do not see anything wrong my policy against players chit-chatting with friends and family outside the dugout during games.
The player did later apologize to me for what she did (grandmother gave her a muffin, so she decided to snack), but although I told her we were cool and not to worry about it or take it personally, my tone was only a little contrite and I did not express an apology to her. That's on me, and I will try to make that right tomorrow. I wasn't short or dismissive, I just don't think I gave her what she needed at that moment.
My case: I want the players totally focused during games, because their safety is my primary concern. I notified the parents of this before the season and put it in writing.
If a kid is diabetic, let us know. If you see that a kid needs water or to be cooled off immediately, let us know.
If your kid has behavioral issues or has trouble focusing, let me know.
At the start, one parent did let me know what to watch for or what I might experience with their child and gave me a suggestion on handling it. We haven't had any problems whatsoever.
Now, a parent is upset with me and thinks my policy is wrong. She understands the emphasis on safety and tells me she wants her DD to learn how to compete, but feels that the players should be able to converse with friends and family when not in the game.
The team we played yesterday hit 2 home runs. These were not ground balls that kept rolling. These were shots. Most teams won't, but they hit us hard and often. I admit to being more protective than normal, but was actually less intense overall because we had no chance of beating this team.