Team Rules~No player/parent interaction at the ballpark

[radness]

Sorry, I was paraphrasing

Having choices is a good thing, as long as expectations are clearly spelled out.

So if there was a coach at a tryout who gathered the parents together and announced, “If you are invited to play for me, I expect that you will have no contact with your daughter from the time you arrive until after the last game of the day,” I’d be a little leery. And grateful, that he/she spelled that out and we could shift our focus to finding a different team.

This board is filled with horror stories about coaches who are bad people but continue to attract good players because they have a reputation for winning.


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Thats ok, I just commented so people didn't think incorrectly of what I meant.

Can imagine that it could sound like a horror story if it was presented like that.

However it's interesting how little information people will get when they select a team to play for. The fact that people will select teams without having any idea how the coach is going to facilitate the team seems like a horror story in the making.


This comment might blow some people out of the water. But I know this coach in particular specifically did not want extra added static and gossip junk that can evolve from parent participation over helicoptering and added telephone calls that do nothing but cause more static and have nothing to do with facilitating the team. He eliminated that factor by a great amount with his standard. By being a coach who would not be influenced by parents pressure. Removed parental junk affecting the players by a great margin.
In doing so, produced success yearly and had people waiting in line to hopefully earn a spot on his roster.
Even going to add to that that he did not have the most pleasant personality to watch on the field. But he cares a heck of a lot about the players,
and always has!

 

[Lance Steckler]

as a coach of 18u Team, i can say that we set times to arrive for warm ups and expect the girls there ready to roll at that time. DO NOT come strolling up at 8, eating breakfast, crocs on feet, earplugs in, etc. When you were told warm ups start at 8. You will be at the bottom of the batting order, and likely start game on the bench. And if your mom is driving you and likes to be late, she'll either adapt or you will suffer. Sorry about your luck.

and after the game is over, and we spend ~5mins talking about game and praising where due, released until next warm up time.

Parents - know not to be hovering in and around dug out. You're not going to give her magic swing advice in on deck circle. You will not be calling pitches, You will not be advising us coaches on batting order, field positions, etc.

Find a comfy chair, cheer on the team and enjoy the game. If there is a real issue, i promise you us coaches will summon you immediately.

 

[_MIA_]

In reality, even though we are allowed to have interation with DD on our team, I see her about 5% of the time - mainly food or drink related. She prefers hanging out with her friends.

In reality, above the age of 10 or 11, how many kids want to be around their parents anyway? I am basically a ATM/vending machine to her..

 

[uncdrew]

In reality, above the age of 10 or 11, how many kids want to be around their parents anyway? I am basically a ATM/vending machine to her..

Yup.

I say "Good game, you did awesome, that was fun to watch. Did you have fun?"

She says

"Can you please get me a cheeseburger?"

That's about the extent of our "at the tourney" interactions.

 

[Lobster Birch]

Can I still talk to the kids on the other team?

 

[lostcreek1]

I guess I could buy into this at 16u or 18u. Even at that I don't really see the benefit of it. From warm ups until after post game talk I'm all for it at any age. Between games we really don't even talk about the previous game, usually go watch some of the other games going on.

 

[Lance Steckler]

Can I still talk to the kids on the other team?

sure. as part of the game or after no big deal. And likewise if Coach X walks up and wants to see 'Sally' playing wherever, there's a darn good chance Sally is gonna be at that position ASAP.

Just like the head coach will likely be talking to any college coach that has interest in any player. He's got all profile sheets and that's part of his job. None of this "I don't talk to college coaches, that's the players job" Sure it is, But she's a little busy presently playing. When you have 5+ college coaches there to watch players, it's a special moment for all.

 

[ang2bmd]

Since I work in child abuse this sends red flags for me all over the place. We have very minimal interaction with our child before and during games but to restrict them during long breaks between games I would not be okay with


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[radness]

Parents - know not to be hovering in and around dug out. You're not going to give her magic swing advice in on deck circle. You will not be calling pitches, You will not be advising us coaches on batting order, field positions, etc.

Find a comfy chair, cheer on the team and enjoy the game. If there is a real issue, i promise you us coaches will summon you immediately.

Aside from the reason of the team unity aspect of keeping players together.

The topic of how parents handle themselves is all over the place.

Can understand why no interaction from parents may seem incredibly extreme to some parents that are used to being able to be involved so much continually while their kid is at the field with their team.

 

[radness]

Since I work in child abuse this sends red flags for me all over the place. We have very minimal interaction with our child before and during games but to restrict them during long breaks between games I would not be okay with


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Is a one game game break away from the parents bad in your opinion?
Or do you think it is okay to have a one-game game break and keep the team together and not have them go off with their parent?