You haven't detailed it explicitly, but I'm guessing that as a 10U travel team with whom you have valued friendships among the parents, that you are dealing with a group of local girls. Most of them probably go to school together, and you see these parents regularly outside of softball. I was in this exact situation a few years ago, this is how it played out.
8U rec all-star team consisted of some good players. All of the girls were friends at school, and the team had a good summer, winning lots of games. I was an AC, the coach was the rec league's VP of softball. The parents of this team all got along great, we had a wonderful summer filled with barbecues and fun practices. Heading into the fall, we all decided to form a travel team to keep the girls playing together.
We played one season. While there was minimal drama, we were a .500 team at first-year 10U. Not bad, really. But everyone had such high expectations and slowly everyone got the idea that their budding superstar would be better off on an established team.
Over the past few years, all of the girls have moved around from team to team, often with one or two of their original teammates. We still see everyone at school events, and that original group has played together in rec every year. I just finished coaching them all in what will likely be my last season as a rec coach. Now, they're all on the middle school team together and all of us parents sit together and watch.
Bottom line, even if the team doesn't survive the friendships (mostly) will.
Uh...
You're like me from the future. Scary. Uncanny really, our stories are identical.
We might be headed down that exact same road. Most of our drama came from one family (but it was spreading). I'm the type of person that wants everyone to be happy and gets more upset than most when that doesn't happen. I'm guessing if you asked most all of the parents on the team they'd say the team is great and drama minimal. Some might not even be aware.
Yes, these girls are friends now and will be in middle school. Probably very close friends as they've really bonded. I certainly don't want any bad blood with their parents, especially over such trivial stuff as them bitching about playing time (and me trying to explain why they aren't getting as much as the parent wants).
I've never seen my daughter this happy in her life. She beams from ear to ear about anything softball and her team. The core of the team is the same way. While we might fall apart as parents want more, it seems sad (and wrong) when the joy they have will be hard to replicate.