I hear you on this. I agree, for me, the game was all I needed. But, the fact is, boys and girls are different. My dd (first year 10U) is highly driven by the social aspect of playing with friends. I do understand that every girl is different but, I don't think this is uncommon.
Boys don't play for social reasons? Let me see... on Friday nights in Texas, football teams of more than 100 boys are common, even though only about 20 to 30 play.