Been thinking about this lately as it pertains to my DD's motivation for playing.
Which is more like your daughter?
Type 1
-Very competitive. Wants to win. Wants to be the best hitter, pitcher on her team.
-Inwardly motivated.
-Also motivated by doubters and haters. Loves to prove people wrong.
-She's not going to enjoy a team unless she's playing the role that she wants. Doesn't mean that she's selfish or that she's not a team player, as coaches love self-motivated players, but she's also going to look for a team that helps her achieve her personal goals. Team chemistry and relationships are all nice, but her role on the team and the competition level are paramount.
-If the team brings in a better player at her position, she doesn't like it, but it also will stir her competitive fires.
-If she were a football player, she's more likely turn pro after 3 years to play at a higher level.
-She'd really miss playing softball if she had to give it up right now.
Type 2
-Plays softball to be part of something bigger than herself. Not as interested in individual goals.
-Outwardly motivated. Will run through a wall for the right coaches and teammates.
-No time for haters and doubters. Thrives around people who believe in her and care about her. Seeks them out instead.
-If the team brings in a better player at her position, that's fine. She's happy to play another position. She hopes the new player makes the team better but also hopes the new player is fun to be around.
-If she were a football player, she'd more likely return for a senior year to make one more run at the title.
-Selfless to a fault. Has no problem sacrificing or even sitting out sometimes if she's part of a team that she loves.
-She wouldn't miss softball that much if she had to quit. She'd just miss her teammates and coaches.
Which is more like your daughter?
Type 1
-Very competitive. Wants to win. Wants to be the best hitter, pitcher on her team.
-Inwardly motivated.
-Also motivated by doubters and haters. Loves to prove people wrong.
-She's not going to enjoy a team unless she's playing the role that she wants. Doesn't mean that she's selfish or that she's not a team player, as coaches love self-motivated players, but she's also going to look for a team that helps her achieve her personal goals. Team chemistry and relationships are all nice, but her role on the team and the competition level are paramount.
-If the team brings in a better player at her position, she doesn't like it, but it also will stir her competitive fires.
-If she were a football player, she's more likely turn pro after 3 years to play at a higher level.
-She'd really miss playing softball if she had to give it up right now.
Type 2
-Plays softball to be part of something bigger than herself. Not as interested in individual goals.
-Outwardly motivated. Will run through a wall for the right coaches and teammates.
-No time for haters and doubters. Thrives around people who believe in her and care about her. Seeks them out instead.
-If the team brings in a better player at her position, that's fine. She's happy to play another position. She hopes the new player makes the team better but also hopes the new player is fun to be around.
-If she were a football player, she'd more likely return for a senior year to make one more run at the title.
-Selfless to a fault. Has no problem sacrificing or even sitting out sometimes if she's part of a team that she loves.
-She wouldn't miss softball that much if she had to quit. She'd just miss her teammates and coaches.
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