Do I have a legitimate reason to pull my daughter from her team?

[Pop time 44]

Yes that is the question. She asked coach that exact thing. What do I have to do to get more time defensively? Coach said she would talk to her at practice later in the week. She actually was going into this year hoping to get more time at the corners. I'm not kidding, those kids don't move.


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[BobInMadison]

There are a couple of red flags here.

First is you said the coach hates to have parents talk about playing time, and is a bit of a hot head. The way you are approaching this may be the best way to handle this for this situation, but it may be a bad situation. Meaning, if this doesn't get resolved by your DD talking to the coach, you will have to talk to the coach, whether the coach likes it or not.

Second, just about any TB team should emphasize player development, even if it a diamond platinum elite team. The win-at-all-costs teams should at least get their second tier players some playing time during pool play. If your DD isn't playing defensively at all, not even during pool play, that is bad.

 

[Big Daddy Michigan]

Not to sound like a dick, since I've never seen your daughter, but could it be that you are overestimating her skills? She can't get playing time at C, or 3B, or 1B. Maybe she isn't as good as you think she is.

Either way get the coaches opinion. If she's honest with you then you'll know what your daughter needs to work on, or that she isn't in this coaches plans anymore.

 

[Elk Grove Hurricane]

This is interesting to me. Do you think that the percentage should be different for specialty positions (pitcher/catcher) than for other positions?

I would think so if we are talking about just pitching or just catching, but I am also a dad of a pitcher who not want to see DD throw in every game. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't expect her to miss out on opportunities at other positions, so I would still hold firm to the 60% rule. The player/coach who told me that did not pitch or catch, FWIW. We were speaking to her about my older DD who was strictly a position player. I like her rule because it gets away from blame; it isn't about the coach not seeing things right about DD, or the player not doing enough to earn it, or the coach's DD getting PT at someone else's expense. Assuming you're getting a large enough sample size, it definitely makes your decision easier to make.

 

[Pop time 44]

Not to sound like a dick, since I've never seen your daughter, but could it be that you are overestimating her skills? She can't get playing time at C, or 3B, or 1B. Maybe she isn't as good as you think she is.

Either way get the coaches opinion. If she's honest with you then you'll know what your daughter needs to work on, or that she isn't in this coaches plans anymore.

I get that, because you haven't seen her. No she is definitely not out of place on this team. This is a B team. If this was an A elite super select team I could see it. She can more than hold her own behind the plate. She gets more good comments from opposing coaches and players than her own coach. She does a lot of little stuff right (that more advanced coaches pick up on) because she has been working with a catching instructor for three years.


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[Pop time 44]

There are a couple of red flags here.

First is you said the coach hates to have parents talk about playing time, and is a bit of a hot head. The way you are approaching this may be the best way to handle this for this situation, but it may be a bad situation. Meaning, if this doesn't get resolved by your DD talking to the coach, you will have to talk to the coach, whether the coach likes it or not.

Second, just about any TB team should emphasize player development, even if it a diamond platinum elite team. The win-at-all-costs teams should at least get their second tier players some playing time during pool play. If your DD isn't playing defensively at all, not even during pool play, that is bad.

Coach is known as bit of a hot head. At one of our games this past weekend, a random guy sat down next to me. I believe he was waiting for the next game to start. He started asking about our team, making small talk. "This team is good. Where are they from?" Stuff like that. Our coach was on third base as our team was batting. She was making some, shall we say, comments and instructions. The next comment from the guy watching was "wow that coach hates to lose, huh?"


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[obbay]

No she is definitely not out of place on this team. This is a B team.

The Red Flag just got bigger!

The coach shouldn't be "instructing" batters at the plate, that's what practice is for.

I pulled my daughter after 4 years with a program because the Program Director was overly dramatic, played favorites, held grudges and there was some drama/Cliquiness with some (definitely the minority) of the girls that was undermining DD's experience. she was reluctant to leave because a) she is a team player and b) she loved some of the kids and hated to leave them.

we found another team thru a pitching coach that appears to be a perfect fit for DD. Season starts mid-June so we've just had practices, but it is a great group of kids, some better than DD, some worse, but everyone is cool and there to play! they ALL have fun together and the coach is excellent with them.

DD told me that this team may not be as good as the team she left, but she really likes this TEAM better

 

[Big Daddy Michigan]

I get that, because you haven't seen her. No she is definitely not out of place on this team. This is a B team. If this was an A elite super select team I could see it. She can more than hold her own behind the plate. She gets more good comments from opposing coaches and players than her own coach. She does a lot of little stuff right (that more advanced coaches pick up on) because she has been working with a catching instructor for three years.


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Why are the opposing coaches complimenting her catching if she isn't catching? I got confused. Where do they see her catch is she isn't playing?

 

[djcarter1966]

Why are the opposing coaches complimenting her catching if she isn't catching? I got confused. Where do they see her catch is she isn't playing?

Assuming they mean from Fall ball when she was splitting time 50/50?

I mentioned it before but if your are the BACKUP catcher and you are not playing at least one pool game every tournament then you really aren't the backup catcher you are the EMERGENCY catcher in case THE catcher gets hurt...and that actually might not be a bad way to phrase it to the coach, I'm I the backup or the emergency catcher?

 

[Pop time 44]

Why are the opposing coaches complimenting her catching if she isn't catching? I got confused. Where do they see her catch is she isn't playing?

I understand that confusion. The one game over the weekend she did catch, an opposing player chatted with her, admired her blocking. And the day before (in a school game) the ump came over to the bench after the game and gave her high praise. Another coach sought her out to compliment her swing and hitting. I'm not saying she's great at all, there are things to improve on. It just seems she gets a lot of compliments from other coaches. That's happened a few times over the years. I guess I'm just pointing that out so you know she isn't in over her head.


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