Coach upset with DD for going to Homecoming

[iMlearning]

DD said she had a great time at homecoming and we did get a photo of her with her bat LOL. My wife won't let me send it to the coach though. Said he would just get more ticked off. Anyway, just seeing her all dressed up like that and having a good time was well worth it. AC told me that the HC said he won't allow that to happen next year, but we won't be there anyway. Her "dream team" is a real gold team in an organization that she played 14U/16U and occasionally takes lessons from the HC.
I'll post all of her Homecoming photos in a few minutes.
JK

 

[cuzmail]

Turns out his DD did contact some schools ( who is a senior.) I also found out that he was able to pick up another player.

That is why I asked and what I suspected.

I always try to ask why when something like this happens. Once you know the answer to why you will better understand the actions and then can make your own educated decisions.


I am listening and learning. My DD is 12 years old (7th grade). We will be going down these roads in the near future.

 

[joplinmo]

Thats a hard one, the best players make that sacrifice. I have heard Jennie Finch speak on it several teams. To be the best at softball, softball was priority over all social events. I see where you are coming from though with that kind of notice. Really, it is her future and she is accountable for it. I doubt one tournament is going to change her life unless its the one with the offer she wants. I would lay out the facts, make a list of pro's and con's and let her decide. If she is in HS then she needs to start learning how to make these life decisions. This is a great opportunity for you to teach her how to do so logically.

 

[chinamigarden]

Thats a hard one, the best players make that sacrifice. I have heard Jennie Finch speak on it several teams. To be the best at softball, softball was priority over all social events. I see where you are coming from though with that kind of notice. Really, it is her future and she is accountable for it. I doubt one tournament is going to change her life unless its the one with the offer she wants. I would lay out the facts, make a list of pro's and con's and let her decide. If she is in HS then she needs to start learning how to make these life decisions. This is a great opportunity for you to teach her how to do so logically.

On the other hand Jennie Finch lettered in two other sports in HS, volleyball and basketball. Obviously she did things other then softball.

Perhaps what she thinks is sacrifice, is not what every two bit travel ball coach who wants to have complete control over the entire 52 week year of his/players thinks.

 

[iMlearning]

Our season is over now and last weekend we didn't have practice...HC was taking his DD to check out a college. My DD tried to get some girls on the team together to practice and they were too busy which is fine. One girl said she was burnt out and done until January. DD ended up practicing with the AC for 2 1/2 hrs by herself...I think she's dedicated. Our AC was thrilled to do it also. We do have team practice this week.

 

[mike s]

iM thank you for sharing this with the DFP community. I think you did a great job of handling the situation. I enjoy these sagas (as long as its not me in the middle of them) because it give me a chance to think through what would I do in a similar circumstance. Glad your DD had fun at the Homecoming Dance. BTW you never know maybe this was the spark needed for your DD to go for her Dream Team. Good Luck to you and your DD.
Mike

 

[iMlearning]

iM thank you for sharing this with the DFP community. I think you did a great job of handling the situation. I enjoy these sagas (as long as its not me in the middle of them) because it give me a chance to think through what would I do in a similar circumstance. Glad your DD had fun at the Homecoming Dance. BTW you never know maybe this was the spark needed for your DD to go for her Dream Team. Good Luck to you and your DD.
Mike

HaHa! If he reads this thread, we may be forced to go somewhere else anyway!

 

[iMlearning]

HaHa! If he reads this thread, we may be forced to go somewhere else anyway!

Can I change my user name and start over?

 

[Slappers]

If he reads the thread he might realize what a (insert name here) he has been.

 

[Doug Romrell]

Our Coach is upset that DD is going to Homecoming and missing our next tournament. Won't let it go...we told him 2 months ago when he decided to do a tournament out of state. She's never missed one...only part of one when she sprained her ankle in the second game. Fortunately they were on a break when she was in the hospital. Anyone else have this problem? Other girls have missed to go on vacations etc... but he keeps telling her she made a commitment to the team and is letting her teammates down. We have a lot of injuries on the team at the moment but she's been very committed and even played in the last tournament with a recovering ankle after the doctor said he'd prefer she didn't. They only had 8, so she said she'd be fine. Anyway, just wanted to rant.

While I believe a coach can be as strict as he/she wants to be in this regard, I'm not at all strict with this. Years down the road, she'll more easily forget the coach ranting about her going more than she will missing the homecoming activities.