To Buy or not to Buy?

I have not bought my daughter an expensive glove yet (waiting till 14u, she is 12u now) but we get her new top shelf bats regularly. She loves her mitt and bats and actually names them all like pets. She actually cried when her favorite bat broke last year. I am with the above posters, let it slide if it is just this once. I loved my mitt that was good and broke in, nothing better, she probably is upset and will learn her lesson.

I think my DD has lost everything she had at one time or another including her HS graduation present which was a ring worth $800. If she wanted any of that stuff replaced, she worked for it. That said, she never lost her phone or a piece of her SB gear. If she lost a piece of gear, I'd let it slide and get her new since it would be the first time in her career.

I always marked my DD's name in her glove along with my cell # .One time at a tournament she left her glove behind and when we were out to dinner that night my cell rang and someone found her glove and called me and we hooked up the next day to get her glove back. I try to mark as much as i can with either a sharpie or a label gun !

gamommax3 said:

Since you specifically said you want there to be some consequences, I did not mention giving her a pass. If she never does this sort of thing and is responsible, then maybe she gets a pass. I still think if it were me, we would split the cost of the glove somehow. We are raising good, responsible adults. And no one is going to just say "Oh no, you left your laptop at the library and someone took it! Well, here is a new one free of cost. I hate that you forgot it. But next time, let's remember it instead!" I really like there to be some type of real world consequence. And splitting the cost of the glove with her softens that real world consequence for a growing teen who is definitely going to make mistakes along the way. Just my two cents

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Overall, I'm more in line with this rather than just offering up a "free pass". Sure we all lose, misplace, accidentally break stuff but someone in the food chain has to replace it and sooner or later that's going to be the kids responsibility. Best to have them share in that early and start learning the lesson. Haven't lost anything lately (knock on wood) but we still laugh and use as an example the time one of the twins set her basketball down next to the car outside a school in a different part of town as we were loading up to leave after a game. Realized it wasn't with us as soon as we got home. It had her name on it (I try to have info or identifying marks on all our stuff) but we never did get it back. Now, a basketball that cost about $25 bucks is different than a good softball glove but the lesson was still there to be learned. She split the cost of a replacement ball. I'm thinking she was 11 or 12 at the time. I don't make them pay for the stuff the first time around or for club/school sports fees or for pitching lessons or camps or for......

WARRIORMIKE said:

Question to you, if your dd lost her glove or any personal equipment, what should be the consequences? What have you done in the past?

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As others have asked. Does she continually lose items of equipment? Does she respect her gear? Was she genuinely upset? If you have a no, yes and yes I would let it slide with a warning this was her one free pass. Then remind her of how much work she has ahead of her to break the new glove in.

I know I've left my $500 camera at stops on a couple of occasions. I'll get sidetracked by something and have a brain hiccup walking out the door without my most important work tool. Luckily I've been able to get it back both times. So it does happen. The wife teases me saying it's early Alzheimer's. I tell her it's the living with a blonde that's wearing off on me.

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Angela does not leave gear behind. As stated she takes care of her gear. I have no problem buying new gear if its normal wear and tear. For lost or misused equipment, then I have a issue.


Buuuuuut to give everyone an update. The day I posted this thread, the coach did text me and let me know the glove was found after practice. I picked it up from coaches house yesterday after work. Angela does not know I have it. I've been letting her sweat it out a bit longer. Probably till Sat. He HS coach told me that she can borrow a catchers glove at todays scrimmage. So lesson learned. Don't leave your gear behind!

How do you know it was lost and not her?

quincy said:

How do you know it was lost and not her?

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Revised LOL

Buuuuuut to give everyone an update. The day I posted this thread, the coach did text me and let me know the glove was found after practice.

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Whenever I'm done with a practice I always double check the dugout and area we were working in. I always find things. What I tell my players is if I pick up a piece of their gear it costs them a dollar of their own money for the younger ones to get it back. $5 for the older ones.

I have the opposite problem with dd11 . Sometimes, her gear ends up in teammates’ bags. She completely lost a shin guard at one tournament between games. She has different catchers gear now, so maybe the other catcher won’t put it in her bag.

I’ve thought of putting those little gps things on all of her gear. I just don’t know if it’s game legal .

She also loses other things, so it’s not related to softball. If she wants to replace them, she has to pay for it.


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