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That was a good article. We are right there at the part we are starting to back off and encouraging her to lean on the coaches.
She now has a coach who is approachable so when we here "mom" called from the dugout it should only be because she needs another Gatorade.
Here's the problem....what if you're the coach too? If the coach is responsible for correction, how do I be a dad and a coach?
Marriard - I'm trying to figure out what it is about the article that you object to ...
This is the gist of it ...
''When our kids were younger, we played the role of supervisor. We were right there on top of the issues. And we should be—they were young and needed our support. As they age, parents must move to the role of consultant. We’re still involved, still supportive, but we allow our kids to grow up and self-regulate.''
The article didn't say that the only message parents should have for their children is ''We love you no matter what". But it does consider that message to be the most important one.
Secondly - I don't see the 'teaching' and 'setting limits' part that I believe is an extremely important part of being a parent (and I run into way to many people in my area who have decided to ignore this part of parenting). I have never seen myself as purely or even partly a supervisor or a consultant (although you may end up playing parts of these role) - you should be a parent.