You really beleive that girls only play when they are having fun?It is absolutely accurate for my 11yo son and my 14yo daughter. It's also fairly prominent across the teams they play on. The boys go bonkers when they win a game, REGARDLESS what the game is, and that "high" stays with them for a while. Conversely, when they lose, they tend to get down and then carry that for a while. The coaching challenge is to allow that high to roll...and temper out the down times as quickly as possible. On the flip side, for most of the girls on my DD's team, it's often tough to tell after most games if they won or lost; and it is a very, very successful team. I would honestly say that for most of them, if they enjoyed themselves for a weekend tournament, the win/loss doesn't mean an awful lot the next day. Now, they all brag they won the State ASA tourney, but that's about it. What I take from it is as long as they are enjoying themselves, the success comes along with it. As long as, of course, they have the fundamentals and the skill to succeed.
I heard the quote from Candrea as well.
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I don't think the common Candrea quote is about having fun, "Boys have to play good to feel good, but girls have to feel good to play good" its about self esteem and confidence. Which to me is quite different then having fun.