I would not say your pitching coach is wrong but I think it might have something to do with only being 11 years old. My daughter is 9 and will be a 9u player next year. Her fastball is 38-42 mph and her change up is 30-33 mph. What I am saying is that a pitcher that is older and can throw a 60 mph fastball can more likely take 15 mph off with her change up than a younger girl that can only throw in the 40 mph range. It would be very difficult to take 15 mph off a fastball that is only thrown 40 mph without slowing down her arm speed and giving the pitch away.
A 10 mph change in speed is very effective at 10u, and 11u.
A 10 mph change in speed is very effective at 10u, and 11u.