- May 25, 2010
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DD is on a competitive team with all 10-year-olds. While most parents have at some point second-guessed strategy decisions in a relatively benign manner, a couple of parents have recently begun openly questioning lineup and positioning choices. They're mainly campaigning for their DD's which I understand, but I try to avoid the conversations altogether which can be a little tough when you have a bit of a relationship with the family.
I can handle it, though. My problem is when the 24-hour rule is violated and we're at a tournament and the kids haven't even cleared out yet. If a parent is frustrated and just can't take it anymore, and IF the coach is willing to listen to them at that time, I don't mind them having a conversation. What I don't want is a parent going after a coach while my DD and her teammates are still packing up their gear.
My daughter told me she felt very uncomfortable with the situation, but I told her to stay focused on her job and to ignore whatever the adults might be discussing. I also told her that under no circumstances is she to have any such conversations about what was overheard with her teammates.
I know the coach was in a tough spot, because I saw the start of the rant myself. I wasn't within earshot, but I saw how quickly the situation developed. I also know we have to choose what we complain about and what we let go, but is this a concern that should be brought to a coach? I don't manage other adults. I handle my business and like to do it in an appropriate and direct manner, but I don't feel comfortable bringing this up to the other parent.
What would DFP do?
I can handle it, though. My problem is when the 24-hour rule is violated and we're at a tournament and the kids haven't even cleared out yet. If a parent is frustrated and just can't take it anymore, and IF the coach is willing to listen to them at that time, I don't mind them having a conversation. What I don't want is a parent going after a coach while my DD and her teammates are still packing up their gear.
My daughter told me she felt very uncomfortable with the situation, but I told her to stay focused on her job and to ignore whatever the adults might be discussing. I also told her that under no circumstances is she to have any such conversations about what was overheard with her teammates.
I know the coach was in a tough spot, because I saw the start of the rant myself. I wasn't within earshot, but I saw how quickly the situation developed. I also know we have to choose what we complain about and what we let go, but is this a concern that should be brought to a coach? I don't manage other adults. I handle my business and like to do it in an appropriate and direct manner, but I don't feel comfortable bringing this up to the other parent.
What would DFP do?