I'm lost. DD is 12, soon to be 13. She has good skills - not spectacular, but community select-type ability. The problem is she only exhibits it sporadically. Any time she makes a mistake she just shuts down. She stops trying, walks instead of hustling, just won't put any effort in. She did it again at a tryout today. This is not a new thing, and I've tried both positive and negative reinforcement with no results to speak of. She just quits. Then an hour later at home or wherever it's like it never happened. Yet when I suggest she's not having fun and that maybe she should stop playing she refuses to even consider it. I have no idea how to get her to forget the last play and move on with 100% effort.
Full disclosure: Ive been her coach for about 7 years now, and I freely admit that I'm sometimes tougher on her than I am the other girls. But I keep my expectations of each girl compartmentalized, and my coaching style doesn't change based on who I'm dealing with. She does this in other aspects of her life (that I'm not an instructor in) as well, so it's not just fastpitch - so I know the concern goes beyond the game, but this is where it becomes painfully evident and there are a lot of smart, experienced people here.
Full disclosure: Ive been her coach for about 7 years now, and I freely admit that I'm sometimes tougher on her than I am the other girls. But I keep my expectations of each girl compartmentalized, and my coaching style doesn't change based on who I'm dealing with. She does this in other aspects of her life (that I'm not an instructor in) as well, so it's not just fastpitch - so I know the concern goes beyond the game, but this is where it becomes painfully evident and there are a lot of smart, experienced people here.