Best advice I've heard since DD started playing softball - if you don't want to see strike three, don't look at strike two. I think it was the Georgia HC that said that a couple of years ago at the WCWS.
As a father of two pitchers, most of the advice given in this post is going to be very advantageous to them. Swing happy hitters are very conducive to becoming strikeout victims. No doubt, with two strikes a hitter must be looking to put the bat on every ball near the strike zone. However, discretion must still be applied. If the hitter is going to swing at pitches six inches outside when they have two strikes that's where they will be pitched.
I hear ya. My daughter is also pitching on this team. And believe me, in-between innings I talked to my pitcher and catcher about hitting that far outside strike. But, this is 12u. If they are afraid to swing at 12u, it doesn't bode well for 14-18u when the pitchers are even better at hitting their spots. Bottom line is, how many coaches here (at 12u and above) have won very many games without their players swinging their bats?
One problem at a time. We had 2 strike outs swinging, and 9 looking. Hey, if they swing and miss at strike three in the dirt or way over their head, maybe they can get on first with the dropped third strike! I'd rather they were over aggressive than just standing up there with the bat on their shoulder.