I wonder if anyone here has had a child, or who coached a player, who had real bad performance anxiety.
My daughter is struggling with it right now. High school season just started, and she says she feels nauseous during the game and cannot relax. She’s not playing particularly well, and her struggles are compounding the problem. She's really not enjoying it at the moment.
Also know that this isn't a beginner. She's actually committed to play in college. That's part of the problem. She feels a lot of pressure to live up to the expectations. It’s teachers, classmates, teammates in high school. Her college coach, everybody. Afraid to let anybody down.
But also understand that this isn't just typical nerves, and it's not really about softball. If not softball, it would play out in something else she cared about. It's the way she's wired. It's probably genetic. Her mother was a good track athlete in college, and she used to be the same way at meets. She outgrew as an adult through a lot of work and courage. Her grandfather had severe social anxiety and never really worked past it.
Also know that you wouldn't know this about her just to watch her. You might think she's quieter than most, but she makes and keeps friends, and she does things like sing in a talent show or act in a play, all on her own accord. She went to the school formal last weekend. She's active in classes. It's just more difficult for her than most.
Any thoughts? Experiences?
My daughter is struggling with it right now. High school season just started, and she says she feels nauseous during the game and cannot relax. She’s not playing particularly well, and her struggles are compounding the problem. She's really not enjoying it at the moment.
Also know that this isn't a beginner. She's actually committed to play in college. That's part of the problem. She feels a lot of pressure to live up to the expectations. It’s teachers, classmates, teammates in high school. Her college coach, everybody. Afraid to let anybody down.
But also understand that this isn't just typical nerves, and it's not really about softball. If not softball, it would play out in something else she cared about. It's the way she's wired. It's probably genetic. Her mother was a good track athlete in college, and she used to be the same way at meets. She outgrew as an adult through a lot of work and courage. Her grandfather had severe social anxiety and never really worked past it.
Also know that you wouldn't know this about her just to watch her. You might think she's quieter than most, but she makes and keeps friends, and she does things like sing in a talent show or act in a play, all on her own accord. She went to the school formal last weekend. She's active in classes. It's just more difficult for her than most.
Any thoughts? Experiences?