If she doesn't want to practice, she cannot be a pitcher. Period. SHE has to want it and SHE needs to be motivated to put in the time and effort. Maybe having someone else coach her, such as a pitching coach, who is not family might help but I wouldn't push her into pitching until if and when she has shown a commitment to the position. Why waste hers and your time? Find her a less time consuming position and work a lot on her hitting. By the way, lots of kids play much better when they are coached by someone not too familiar with them because kids are masters at knowing how to manipulate their parents on and off the softball fields.
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If she doesn't want to practice, she cannot be a pitcher. Period. SHE has to want it and SHE needs to be motivated to put in the time and effort. Maybe having someone else coach her, such as a pitching coach, who is not family might help but I wouldn't push her into pitching until if and when she has shown a commitment to the position. Why waste hers and your time? Find her a less time consuming position and work a lot on her hitting. By the way, lots of kids play much better when they are coached by someone not too familiar with them because kids are masters at knowing how to manipulate their parents on and off the softball fields.
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I love that line. For the life of me I never understood why so many loved to play in games but hated to practice. Taking 100 pop ups in practice vs. getting 3 balls hit to you during a two hour game doesn't seem like a hard choice but many, many girls just like the idea of playing. Practice is just something to be endured so you can be on the field come game time.
Once you figure out who is who life get's a whole lot easier.
Pickle,
College athletes remember what they were like when they played college ball, not when they were 11YOA. So, your self-image of how you were at that age is likely wrong. So, you might ask your parents what you were like at that age.
As far as the "hustle" during the game, it sometimes helps to ask your AC about your DD's performance. If she/he doesn't perceive a problem with her hustle, then *you* are likely not perceiving her actions on the field accurately. The best advice is to let your AC deal with your DD and you take care of the rest of the team.
If she is "good", then she needs to play on a team without you as a coach. The interaction between you and her changes when you both have a common goal (playing time). E.g., as a coach if you say, "Hustle for that ball!", it sounds to her like it is simply Mom complaining. If you are a parent, you can explain the situation and say, "The coach is watching. He wants to play kids that hustle. So, if you hustle all the time, you will get more playing time."
As to pitching--Just because you know how to pitch doesn't mean that you can teach. Find a pitching coach for her.
College athletes remember what they were like when they played college ball, not when they were 11YOA. So, your self-image of how you were at that age is likely wrong. So, you might ask your parents what you were like at that age.
As far as the "hustle" during the game, it sometimes helps to ask your AC about your DD's performance. If she/he doesn't perceive a problem with her hustle, then *you* are likely not perceiving her actions on the field accurately. The best advice is to let your AC deal with your DD and you take care of the rest of the team.
If she is "good", then she needs to play on a team without you as a coach. The interaction between you and her changes when you both have a common goal (playing time). E.g., as a coach if you say, "Hustle for that ball!", it sounds to her like it is simply Mom complaining. If you are a parent, you can explain the situation and say, "The coach is watching. He wants to play kids that hustle. So, if you hustle all the time, you will get more playing time."
As to pitching--Just because you know how to pitch doesn't mean that you can teach. Find a pitching coach for her.
Gbucz
WNY native now in Charlotte, NC
I agree with the advice to see a different person for pitching lessons. As catcher you can learn what the coach says in a specific situation then turn it back to her - what was it coach said about those feet?, Did coach say X then Y or X then Z? If you know she has given the wrong answer then agree to disagree and bring it up with coach next time just so you are both clear. This gives her the sense you are learning at the same rate as she is - you are in this together. Even if you know more than you let on she thinks you are as much a learner.
One other thing about the team coaching I have found the WORST coaches have DD pitching on the team. My DD has been released from teams after showing up the coaches DD. When we play those teams and see the stagnation we are glad they let her go. Her current coaches have DD's in their 20's and no relatives on the team. Things are great!!
One other thing about the team coaching I have found the WORST coaches have DD pitching on the team. My DD has been released from teams after showing up the coaches DD. When we play those teams and see the stagnation we are glad they let her go. Her current coaches have DD's in their 20's and no relatives on the team. Things are great!!
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