She didn't tryout as a Freshman???
Sprained her ankle day before freshman year tryouts. JV coach was her first TB coach, he knew her and didn't need her to tryout.
She didn't tryout as a Freshman???
Interesting update and much more to the story. My wife picked up DD from school and they had a talk on the way home. On varsity there is a clear #1 pitcher, she is a senior and has a D1 scholarship. DD is intimated by this girl. The two of them were working with the pitching coach yesterday and my DD felt every pitch by the other girl was faster, had more movement, hit the spot better. In her own mind there was no way the coach would have her pitch over this girl. The other team members will think she isn't that good of a pitcher. This just kept building in her head to the point she had the breakdown. My wife seems to have calmed and I will share with her some of the comments in this thread. Thanks.
I would think in CA you would have at least 4 pitchers on JV and Varsity. Is she #5? Can this one pitcher carry the load for the whole program? Is throwing better than this girl her only hope and quality? Does she hit? Is she the 26th worst hitter, etc. on the 25 player rosters? She doesn't have to be the best, just good enough! And she has already proved it.
3 pitchers on each team. She dominated JV teams last year and was pulled up to varsity last week of season and into playoffs. In 7 games pitched a total of 1 inning. #2 and #3 pitchers didn't fare better. They got a total of 3 innings in these games. In critical games HC doesn't pull #1 unless there is a significant lead and only an inning remaining. She is the clear #2 on Varsity but is getting very anxious that her other softball skills have not kept pace with her pitching. She is a very good hitter but lacks speed. Her fielding is good but not on par with the varsity starters at first and third. Her anxiety is growing that she will sit on the bench most of the season while everyone else is playing. This might not be rational but having had a 15/16 YO before I have learned that rational emotions and that age are often mutually exclusive.
DD is intimated by this girl. The two of them were working with the pitching coach yesterday and my DD felt every pitch by the other girl was faster, had more movement, hit the spot better.
I have seen that exact thing before. While my DD was in college she was home during Christmas break one year. We went to the local indoor facility so she could work out before heading back to school.
When we walked in there was a young girl who looked to be 12 years old or so. I could tell she was just starting out by watching a couple of pitches. My daughter daughter started doing her warmups in the tunnel next to the girl. The girl was fine while this was going on. About 10 minutes later one of my daughter's former teammates who was also a pitcher showed up to work out. She takes the tunnel on the other side of the girl.
My daughter was throwing in the 63-65 mph range at that time. The other girl would throw in the 60-62 range. As my daughter and the other girl were getting fully warmed up they were both really popping the leather on both sides of the girl. I'm watching the young girl between pitches and I could see it in her body language that she completely intimidated by the college girls on either side of her. Her pitches were going everywhere and the dad was getting frustrated with her.
My daughter saw it too. She called the young girl over to her and said something to her. The girl smiled and nodded her head a couple of times. Her pitching was still erratic but her demeanor seemed to lift. When we were done for the day I asked my daughter what she said to the girl. She told me she asked the girl if she was just learning how to pitch and the girl answered yes. Then she asked her if she could let her in on a secret and again the girl nodded. She told her that she was just like her when she was her age and that it takes a lot of work to be able to pitch well. Then she asked the girl if she was willing to do it and the girl answered yes and went back to pitching.
If there's someone who can give your daughter's confidence a slight nudge in the positive direction don't be afraid to use it.