the true softball dad abides
Thanks. Yeah she isn't going to be a pitcher or catcher..that would kill me.
The second point is a good one and something I need to work on I think...my wife tells me this all the time. I guess I should listen.
For the third point she plays 10U now so I know what 10U looks like..and then I forget quickly..
With regards to your fourth point like I have said previously, for the most part none of this angst is imparted back to my kid. Luckily her coach has long meetings after games so if I didn't like the way she played I have plenty of time to relax and move on. She enjoys playing a lot, is always wondering when the next tournament is going to be and loves going to work with me and her younger brother at the field. What I would like is for ME to enjoy her games..I guess it is kind of selfish in a way. I actually didn't go to one of her tournaments this summer because of all of this but she told me afterwards that she wanted me to be there so I went to the rest of them.
marriard said:...you may need to make the mental shift of it being her game - not yours. Her 'not-perfect' form is not a reflection on you. Her successes and failures are not yours - they are hers. She is 8 - she is physically not capable of performing some skills or making some throws and she certainly hasn't had time to learn even the basics of the game.
I am just looking for ways to somehow manufacture some of those rose colored glasses I see many softball parents wearing.
She wants to make all the plays and hit the ball hard every time. However, learning how to handle the times when she isn't perfect or made a mistake is one of the most important lessons this game teaches. If I recall, this was a lesson that you struggled with yourself.
Because I have mental issues which I suspect border on OCD-like behavior?? That was the whole point of this thread.. Before I had kids I was able to channel all of thatI think reading this stuff......how can you not like the way she played?
My DD isn't old enough to verbalize that but my wife tells me that all the time...she gets to hear all of the stuff I want to say to my DD but don't because I know I shouldn't...DD looked at me in the car and said "I am not the same person as you. You cant expect me to do everything like you would do it." I have never forgot that conversation and dd still reminds me of it from time to time. It was an important message for me to hear.
Sent from my SM-G960U using Tapatalk