I agree. I think you'll get better performance out of today's players if they like you as well as respect you. But that's still a broad spectrum. Being liked doesn't necessarily mean they'll invite you to their birthday party or graduation. But it does mean they trust you and know you have their best interests at heart.
There's an old coaching saying: Before your players care how much you know, they first must know how much you care. I truly believe that to be the case.
And to me that is very important. Not only do the players have to trust the coach, so do the parents. Once they know you have their best interests a lot of good things can happen.
A couple years ago a mother called and ask me to help her daughter. i know her she was a couple years older then my DD. I never coached her in town ball, but had seen her play, she wasn't that good and she wasn't a good student either.At the time the girl was in 7th grade and her goal was to play on our HS team and had no father ( or one who didn't care) to help her. So, for 2 years, when my daughter and i worked out, she came along. i started taking her to my TB practice, at 1st it was rough, but she slowly got better. long story short, she made the JV team as a Freshman, she is now in her senior year and this will be her 3rd year as a varsity player, she is also now an honor student in the honor society Below is what she sent me in a card after making the team..
Coach, without you, not sure where i'd be. I read the below and it made me think of you..
“The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be no ticker tape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Its overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt”
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